Have you lost your sense of calm and equanimity recently?
Have you lost your balance and feel overwhelmed?
One problem with feeling overwhelmed is that we often don’t even acknowledge we are in it, when it begins, and before long, we are up to our eyes in it.
Feeling overwhelmed is the problem of being caught in the illusion that there is too much to do and not enough time to do it.
Your first reaction might be to say it’s no illusion, ” I do have too much to do,” but THAT could just be part of the cause of your problem.
The too much perspective
Let’s address the “TOO MUCH”
When you expect yourself to accomplish more than is humanly possible, and you are only human, something is out of alignment.
Fast action activity: Here is how to get organized when feeling overwhelmed. Write a list. Thinking about letting go of anything that is not meaningful, important or urgent. If you have things on your to-do list that are not urgent, important or meaningful, you might want to reassess why you were going to try to do them. One energy-giving activity is to consider STOP doing the things that are not important, meaningful or urgent. Here is a downloadable form to use.
Your second reaction
The low compassion for self perspective
It’s an all-to0-frequent sand trap we can fall into when we think we can do it all.
We think we can push ourselves further and further, over-committing ourselves, and then, when we fail and fall into exhaustion, we spend way too much time caught up in negative self-talk about the whole thing.
If you are stuck, it’s time for some clearing techniques.
If you’re tired, perhaps it’s time for some self-compassion.
- and begin or continue a significant self-care focus.
Fast action activity: Go and take a nap. When you come back, think about ways you can maintain some equanimity. You might decide to stop saying yes automatically. You might decide to say no more often. You might decide to choose to do only those things that are meaningful to you.
A common third reaction is a huge source for the problem of the overwhelmed…
The I am all on my own and isolated perspective
Believing you are isolated and alone. You have forgotten your connection with ONENESS.
Fast action activity: Remember we are ALL one. Shift to a perspective that we, every human, are all connected.
Here are some other ways to cut down that feeling of being overwhelmed in isolation:
- See out connection with others
- Separate the core truth from an interpretation. Often, the interpretation is the source of the isolation! In a full-on perspective of truth, there is comfort (of some sort).
- Unhook yourself from the future.
- Wait for clarity before making decisions. It may be you need to bring in other perspectives or wait for the emotional wave to pass.
- Go for a state of calm in all situations. Calm is a highly resourceful state – one that you can leverage to travel in any direction you choose.
- Do a little prioritizing and create hierarchies. It’s amazing how a re-alignment to what is most meaningful will do.
I like to think of “overwhelmed” as an unnecessary state of affairs. When you choose to lead yourself in a more self-designed effective way, the overwhelmed feelings become an experience of the past.
Will you ever experience feelings of being overwhelmed again? In these times we are living in? Probably.
Yet, when you have an effective tool-kit for handling being overwhelmed, the second you feel it coming on, you’ll have designed an effective response.
The moment you feel overwhelmed is the opportunity to be proactive in how you self-manage, be response-able enough to recognize it immediately, and take responsive action.
Ask yourself “What would bring me back to balance?” “What can I do, right now that would get me above this?”
“What kinds of things help you get back to equanimity and balance?” Share your thoughts.