Influence and Inspire – 7 Ways for Personal Leadership

16 tablespoons of effortIn Personal Leadership, being effective influencing is when you inspire others to a point of view or behaviour based in a perspective of Love and not Fear.

If you were to try to influence through fear, you break others down vs. lifting them up through inspiration.

“Inspiration is a tool of a personal leader”

Here are 7 ways to both influence and inspire as a personal leader:

1. Have a meaningful conduit for your self expression.  There is a seed within you that is bursting wanting to be expressed.   Everyone’s seed is unique to them.   It could be a garden, a poem, a cause, a legacy, being an inspirational role model, being a guide, a healer, a painter, a poet, a perspective or anything else for that matter.  The what is important to you; it’s the medium that inspires you and at the same time has a theme of purposefulness held inside it.  This purposefulness inspires and enrolls others who are called to the same cause.

2. Create a container for your purposeful expression.  Create a place to which other’s would like to belong.  It could be a home for your family, a place for your client tribe, a membership website or a special place in your community.  It’s a place where you can communicate through your own humanity with those who are attracted to your expression of purpose.  It’s a place where you can be in service. Service is inspiring.

3.  Show up.  Influencers; are seen.  If no one witnesses you; there is no one to inspire.

4. Be a great listener.  Be as great of a listener as you are great expressing.   Let others show and tell you of their experience in a deep enough way that you really understand their words and view. This means meeting people where they are –  through better listening and then following it up with effective communication honouring the words spoken as you listen.

5. Be trustworthy.  Being worthy of trust means being consistent, being congruent, being caring and increasing your capacity as situations require. People are inspired and influenced by those they trust.

6. Honour and live your values.  It is through your values demonstrated that you have the greatest opportunity to influence through inspiration.  When someone witnesses you living true to your values – it inspires them to live more fully their own.  You will naturally attract others who have similar values to your own when your essence of values. This kind of congruence is inspiring.

7. Take a 16 tbsp perspective.  16 tablespoons added to a cup one at a time, fills the cup.  This metaphor  can be an inspirational light for small consistent action repeated until a cup is filled.  Your biggest opportunity to inspire and influence is to fill your own cup; 1 tablespoon at a time. THAT is inspiring.

Personal Leadership is Life Practiced with Heart

Live with HeartI believe personal leadership can best be defined by the phrase “it’s your life practiced well and with heart“.   When you live your life in search of a better you through practicing in the courageous pursuit of personal mastery – you live a life of heart-filled personal leadership.

By choosing what is meaningful and then living those choices with heart; you raise your bar above the norm. You’re giving effort to raise things up above ordinary, up to the level of extraordinary.

When you are willing to engage in ‘practice’ – you are willing to risk not being perfect.  You are willing to extend yourself in vulnerability and you are willing to learn to get better.

It is this authenticity in living that will elevate your experience to the level that feels more like a reward for yourself and an inspiration for others.

Here are 7 Ways to Practice your Life with Heart:

  1. Embrace the concept of failing effectively.  Failing effectively is taking learning from every effort – even if you fail.  The ability to see the best of what is – in any situation (even a failure) is cornerstone to leveraging your learning and being effective as someone who practices life with heart.  Imagine going through life – knowing you could not fail (really fail). Imagine having the ability to see the perfection in any given situation and the courage to keep on learning.
  2. Pursue mastery. Valuing the process of living through the pursuit of personal mastery has huge rewards.  Not only can you visually see your improvement, progress and purposefulness in action – you also get to move into the realm where life becomes almost like a jazz improvisation – where you move beyond competence into a place of flow and ease.
  3. Find your Flow.  Find that place where there is a resonance and just right balance between the challenge at hand and your current skills.  Putting your heart into something is one of the cornerstones of finding flow.   Read these 3 tips for finding your flow.
  4. Live in presence.  Finding your own personal presence is a moment by moment practice.  It’s the awareness the comes from the presence that will both inform and transform your ability to live in the wonder of the moment. Each and every one of them.
  5. Values – align with your own.  It can take real courage to live life on your own terms – in alignment with your own values instead of just accepting by default those of your family or your peers. Finding out what is truly meaningful and important to you can be an ongoing pursuit that changes as your life situation changes.  How many people do you know who raise the importance level of their own health after one of their parent’s pass away.  It’s like a wake up call to what is truly important to them. (NOW)
  6. Make a committment to congruence. Having your head, heart and hands all in alignment sends a message to yourself and to others around you – that says you are clear, confident and you are calm in your own skin. It says you love rather than fear.  When you practice life with congruence – you give yourself more access to both your intuition and to your heart.
  7. Play. The lightness that play brings to the art of practicing transforms your pursuit of mastery into something that is sustainable, enjoyable and nurturing.   The mindset of being at play and being playful can soothe your soul.

Why not make a committment to yourself today – to live your day with a lot of heart.  You deserve the reward.