Want More Out of Life? Try a Personal Leadership Development Plan

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Have you ever asked yourself,  “Is this all there is?” or  ” Is this as good as it gets?”   

A life-limiting challenge for a family member prompted these questions to question come up recently, and I can understand why; they have settled – and they know it.  Have you too settled in some small way?

If you have on some level wondered “could there be more ?”, Then you may enjoy this post about what it means to take a look at what might be your more.   Once you name what you want ‘your more’ to be; add it to your own customized Personal Leadership Development Plan.

“Wanting more in life is to want better.   A better day, a better you, a better life, or a better world”

Here are some ideas to take a look at when I think of what it is to have more – and it is for sure not about having more meaningless “stuff”.  Having more, has a purpose.   If your more can help you better connect, become more masterful or be in better service in the world – then this is a perspective where I’ll say more is a personal leadership development mindset.

Here are 7 ideas around “MORE” for your personal leadership development plan:

Want More. When you want more – the likelihood of your being able to get more increases.  When we squash our dreams and desires with small beliefs that we shouldn’t, or can’t do something – a part of us shrivels a little.  If you have ever had a dream – and you have kept it to yourself – you know what I am talking about here.

Have you settled?  Settling for a smaller life than you imagined is just an example where the want for more may have been silenced.    If you have molded yourself to another’s ideal vision for the way you live – it just might be an opportunity to look at what you most value.

There is a basic and so fact that when we live our values, and we live them fully – our personal fulfillment level rises.

Do you want more personal fulfillment?   If so, get better at living your own values and life as you self – define success.

Just remember, wanting more is ok; it’s just about your self-expression.

Deserve More. It’s ok to expect more. You are worth it.

If you have ever thought,  “I don’t need that” or “I don’t deserve that”   What are you really saying?

I am not talking about unconscious excesses here.  I am talking about self-full, simple, meaningful desires for better,  that would improve your life.   The opportunity here is to look at what it is you most want and then find ways to receive it.

Give More. When you undertake “a path of better”, you are saying through your behaviors that you are willing to go outside your normal comfort zone of acting and are willing to give an increased effort.   The by-products of approaching your life with an “I will give more” attitude is many. Things like increases in self-confidence, increased efficiency and productivity are just a few.

Imagine how much more you would be able to carry out if you just had the ability to give more.

There is a quiet concept here.  It’s that no more would you be able to spread yourself too thin, where you are giving less to everyone.   The capacity to give more – is rooted in the idea – that you would give your time and energy to what is most meaningful for you – and then re-align the rest of your energy.

Design for More. Did you know you can increase your capacity for something – by designing the environment around you to support that increase in capacity.  By changing your environments to support your upcoming excellence,  you can create an inspirational vacuum to pull yourself forward.

This can be as simple as surrounding yourself with the people, ideas and things that are going to support you to be your very best – and just releasing the rest.  Or, it can be a process where you dive deep and design your environments, so your evolution happens with ease.

It’s up to you how you approach it – just know you can consciously create a supportive environment for yourself – no matter your current circumstance.  Once you gain the awareness of these supportive environments – they become the blueprint for your personal leadership development plan.

Experience More. We have parts of ourselves that like things to stay comfortable.  Expanding outside of that comfort zone can feel discomforting to those parts.

The choice to experience more in our lives – is a choice of keeping ourselves in momentum when we wish movement.   In that choice, it asks us to do more and feel more.

Now those things in themselves are wonderful.   The skill needed is just to learn how to expand your capacity.   Your capacity to do, and your capacity to feel, and both of those can be easily learned.

If you are ready to undertake more in your life – it might be a sign that you are ready for things to be better.

Have you thought of what you might incorporate into a personal leadership development plan  – that will assist you to get better?

 

 

 

 

4 Clearing Techniques to Get Past Stuck

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One key activity in undertaking a path of personal leadership is the courageous one of consistently breaking through perceived barriers.

Success comes easier when you take on a belief, a mindset and practice that stands in the perspective that stuckness is unnecessary and temporary as long as you handle not sitting still for it.

Barriers to our success can manifest in many forms depending on your perspective:  

  • Fear
  • self-talk or toxic thinking
  • Confusion
  • Isolation
  • Overwhelm
  • Resistance
  • Restriction
  • Financial
  • Lack of (name it) money, energy, resources, time
  • Barriers to Success

Barriers, if you let them, can stop you in your tracks.  It often takes small daily acts of courage to move through places where you feel stuck.   It takes a willingness to open yourself up to options and possibilities that will allow you to leapfrog these barbed barriers.  Now, while most of the clearing techniques are dramatically easier when working with an expert coach.

Here are 4 simple clearing techniques that are meant to aid in breaking down barriers:

Mind Clearing:  Got a barrier rooted in how you are thinking? It might be time to do some mind-clearing.  These would be things like having too many choices with equal weight.  Or you are feeling confused? Or unable to hold all the things that need to be done without feeling a sense of overwhelm?

Here is a simple idea…Blank Paper ExerciseThe blank paper clearing technique:  Take a blank piece of 8.5″ x 11″ paper, and with different coloured pens (use the colour where you choose) follow these directions:

  1.  Draw a small circle in the  middle of the page.  In the small circle – write what is you are confused or overwhelmed about – and do it in 2 words or less.  (This is your anchor thought)
  2.  Next draw a small circle – and in that circle write down 1 singular thought, question, or to do.   ( It’s important to only put 1 thought inside.  For example – go to the store and buy buns.. (that’s two thoughts)  Go to the store – is one , and buy buns is another.)

Continue to draw a circles one at a time, and then write the thought in each circle, one at a time – until you run out of thoughts.  (Try not let the circle edges touch)  You assist yourself a little for speed by setting a timer for 7 or 8 Minutes.

  1. At the end of your timer, or sooner if you feel complete – put down your pen and look at what you have done for 1 minute.
  2. Then turn over the piece of paper – so you are looking at the white page – with nothing on it. Look at the blank piece of paper for approx. 1 minute
  3. Take the piece of paper while still looking at the blank side – crunch it up into a ball – and physically throw it in the recycling bin.  It may seem a little shocking to through it away – You will be surprised though at the new awareness that after 10 minute exercise, you don’t really need it anymore.

Now think of your issue that you wrote in the center of the page of the exercise.  How do you feel about it now?   Where’s the confusion or overwhelm now?            Most people feel a greater sense of certainty after doing this exercise.Take this time of clarity to do a little planning of your next steps and determining what resources you will need to move forward.

Chemistry clearing
When you have a chemistry barrier – You might notice you have a language or communication barrier in a relationship.  Your relationship needs some TLC.  Clearing relationship barriers – just means to bring some internal and external focus:

  1. Internally – what do you need to forgive, release or allow?
  2. Externally  – what truth do you need to tell or expression do you have to make?

There are many communication techniques for clearing in relationships. Most good ones ask you to make distinctions between what you see (the truth) and what you make up  (the interpretation).  Truth often has many perspectives.  Interpretation isn’t based on reality.     You will notice that trying to control the outcome to clear a relationship barrier – may just keep you stuck.  Instead, you could try an “allowing” perspective with the intention of creating a connection – you may find that helps you to create some movement.

Body and energy clearing
When you have a body barrier to success  – it might be because your container for your capacity to feel an emotion is smaller than the energy of the feeling.  The result – is a feeling of fear, overwhelm or resistance.

To clear the energy – without forcing…feel into the energy of the feeling and continue to do this – until the feeling dissipates completely.

Spirit Clearing
When you have a barrier on the level of spirit – if not related to trust, it can sometimes be related to what meaning you have attached to your outcome.  Is it inspiring enough to pull you towards it?  Is It aligned with your values? And is the meaning you attribute to it worthwhile?

A simple exercise to clear energy on this level is to go for a walk in nature and think about the big WHY when you desire to do something and keep asking that question to each subsequent answer.  Eventually, after 5 or 6 layers deep – you will discover the deeper meaningful outcome you want.You might just surprise yourself as to what comes to you.   Hold that meaningful outcome up to some light – and see – if now you feel compelled to move forward.It is what meaning making – and those parts of ourself that we bring to the world – that raises your WHY up to a spiritual level.Allow your meaning-making to permeate everything you do.