Personal Leadership – When Better Doesn’t Matter

Getting better at something doesn’t mean much when you are talking about something that really doesn’t matter to you.

Better doesn’t matter when you are talking about something you never intend to finish anyway.

Better doesn’t matter in the real world, when you are striving or are using a yard stick against someone else’s progress.





Getting better is a personal pursuit based on demonstration of your own self-defined success.

  • It’s setting and keeping your own standards vs. keeping up with the Jones’
  • It’s being effective enough to complete – and then look for ways to improve things (getting things done – then better)
  • It’s continually improving how you work en route to getting things done
  • It’s caring about being better in every way you are and everything you do
  • It’s being willing to practice to become masterful vs. just competent
  • It’s going for personal fulfillment vs. just settling

When you undertake a path of “betterism” you say – “I am going to pay attention; I am going to make something really, really matter; I am going to pay attention to these specific things that really matter to me.”

So better doesn’t matter when you don’t care – but when you do, it’s everything.

Here are a few tips on how to get better at something that really matters to you personally:

Make it Sacred. When you see something as sacred – it raises your level of attention towards it. You focus on it. You are mindful of it. When you see your path towards being better as sacred – you walk with a purpose – and you are able to tell – right through your personal energy – if anything changes and you leave the path. What’s the Result? You get back on the path much faster.

See it as So. When you can hold a vision of what success looks like, sounds like, tastes like and feels like even before it is immediately before you, you can actually count the steps – to the realism of your vision.

Dreaming things as already done – helps you to feel the personal fulfillment now – and gives you the inspiration you need to pull you forward.

You see your future as a matter of practice. You are also going to be able to see every resource you will need on your path to getting things done. Every step you take – the more clarity you will make.

Even if you fail, failure is progress because you can effectively learn from failing – and make things better.

Simply Simplify. When you keep things to their simplest version, you expand your ability to hold focus on it.

When you keep things in manageable bite-size pieces – you can chew things more easily. Being overwhelmed isn’t a problem when you always have your next step right there in front of you.

What usually causes the problem is the illusion there is too much. Narrowing your focus to what is most meaningful now – helps you limit things so you can focus on important things and getting them better.

So, if you have already decided to make something better, yourself better, or the world better because it is meaningful for you – The world is ready for you and more than that it really needs you.

If you don’t care, don’t want more, and are satisfied the way things are that’s ok. You just haven’t heard the call yet. Please just support others who are ready to get things better.


3 Practical Spiritual Needs Hiding Underneath Your Clutter

and why it may occur without your knowing it

clearing clutter
If you can relate to having a fair bit of clutter in your life; here is an opportunity to look underneath it.

If you do not have clutter clearing as a habit or simplicity practice it just might be blocking your personal leadership vitality.  Look to the meaning or purpose behind your clutter as a way of expanding your awareness of why you might be “over-collecting“.

Have you been burying your spiritual awareness underneath your clutter?

There are many dimensions to clutter:

  1. There is the physical dimension (the actual stuff you are collecting),
  2. The mental dimension (being confused, non-clear or just too many thoughts),
  3. The emotional dimension ( all your feelings around collecting,  ignoring, having too much, or delaying releasing clutter) and then,
  4. there is the spiritual dimension of clutter.  When we talk about the meaning and purpose of your clutter – moves this type of clutter busting up into the spiritual dimension.  So today we’re talking about 3 practical spiritual needs that might be underneath your clutter.

Spiritual Need #1:  Awareness

Are you are hiding Something? (from yourself)

The opportunity here is to expand your awareness around your relationship with clutter.

Expanding your awareness of what clutter represents for you can be a real eye opener.  Once you find the meaning behind your clutter, you get to be in more choice about what to do next.

When we avoid shining a flashlight on the meaning of clutter – we avoid a major key to being able to shift behaviour.

My story with clutter evolved in my 20’s when first purchased a home, and then promptly began to fill it.    Then, right after my brother died, and my folks and grandmother moved to an island – I then experienced a period of collecting to the point of being cluttered.

I collected my folks remnants from their move,  the furniture from my grandparents early marriage and lots of ‘cluttery’ things to make my new home “comfy”.

It wasn’t until later after I began a path of personal development I realized what I was calling me being  “sentimental” was me – avoiding feeling the feeling of being “left”.

This “stuff” allowed me to feel connected – even thought I was separated by distance and death.  I was also resisting the natural changes that time brings too.

Now, over time – I more fully recognize how I was looking outside of myself for something that can only be found within.   The meaning.

Everyone’s story is different.  Are you holding on to too much?

Spiritual Need #2: Living Your Pure Potential

Who are you becoming?

Who are you in relation to your clutter? And What impact are you having on yourself and those around you?

It’s these ways of being that effect more than the tangible and intangible “clutter things”.  For example, pick one environment where you have a fair bit of clutter.

Just review it in your mind now.   You’ve perhaps not spent much time to think about how you behave relation to cluttered things.

So I’ll now invite you to imagine for just a moment that you are in an environment that nurtures and inspires you. A place where you have all your needs met, and you have all the feelings that go along with having all of your needs met.

Imagine you feel connected, loved, open, joyful and inspiring.

 If your inner critic is talking – keep he or she quiet for a moment and really give yourself the gift of just imagining your ideal environment.

Now ask yourself, has the way you have behaved in your environment  – have your behaviours been serving your soul?   Or your ego?

I find that this criteria question can help find your deepest desires for your best behaviours.  Once you find how you wish to behave and you habitually engage in behaviours in alignment with that – who you become is a byproduct.

Spiritual Need #3: Living Your Destiny.

Your legacy is how you lead yourself now. 

What is your personal legacy?  What legacy are you creating?  And when I am asking those questions – I am asking not for your perspective; but from a larger, meta perspective.    For example, sometimes when we collect physical thingy’s we have intentions for  “future use” .

I often find the details of that future use – hasn’t necessarily been grounded in a legacy framework that includes clear pictures of intentions and action steps of how they will be used and by whom specifically.

When you create crystal clarity about when, why and for whom  “things” exist in your environment – often the realization comes that “excess” isn’t really needed – because your resources have been planned to a T.