Self Leadership – Taking on Personal Leadership Habits


Have you ever said the words “I wish I had (blanked) sooner…”

If you have, it might be a sign that you might want to adopt some new self-leadership habits.  Habits are what puts the action into your desires and can help you regret-proof your life.

Self-leadership habits help you get more of what you do want and less of what you don’t.

Setting a Leadership Habit

4 ways you know you got habits:

  1. It’s something you’ve developed over time either intentionally or unintentionally.
  2. It’s something you do often enough to get competent at it with or without conscious though.
  3. It becomes second nature, requiring little energy to start or support it.
  4. It’s comfortable and, therefore, can be a bit challenging or uninspiring to stop.

“Now, some habits give you energy and others will drain you”  

Generally, most personal leadership habits  will give you energy that you can then extend out into to your world and there are two reasons for this:

  1. Energy goes where love flows.  When you are generally excited about something because YOU want it, it is more energizing.
  2. Personal leadership habits have a legacy. This legacy extends past your own identity and gives meaning to others around you.  THAT is both inspirational and life-giving.

5 Reasons why you might want to create some new personal leadership habits:

  1.  To get better at something you desire.
  2.  To become masterful at your desired skill.
  3.  To help you to live a struggle-free life.
  4.  To help you live from your own essence and on your own terms.
  5.  To make it easier to make a difference in the world by becoming your own best self.
Want some ideas of types of personal leadership habits? here is some further reading… Self Leadership – 7 of the Most Important Skills to Master

3 common reasons why you might think personal leadership habits are not for you:

  1.  You really might not like the challenges change brings.  You might be comfortable hoping that things will stay the same.  (Reality check – It will not)
  2.  Personal Leadership is confronting to MORE than your habits.  If you engage in personal leadership habits, you are going to get some push-back from your own relationships as a natural result.  To move through this, it takes a realization that you don’t need validation from anyone to live your own best life.
  3.  You might want to just blend in with the crowd.   Until you are skillful at handling criticism, and the other skills of self leadership, the idea of being a bit “out there“, might just seem a little risky.  It takes a greater awareness of your own innate courage to undertake a path of personal leadership.

 I hope you never have to say the words, “If only I …”

Regret is a reactive emotional state and is almost unnecessary when you live a life filled with self-leadership.  Imagine no more invisibility, or fear. Imagine living a successful life that you self-define.  A life that is resourceful, creative and complete. Living a life filled with personal leadership habits can give you the resources you need to do just that.

Spend a few minutes today thinking about what you would like to be ‘better’.  Within that desire – can be your new personal leadership habits.


Let Go of Delay to be Less Busy and More Productive


Do you feel like you are just a little too busy to (blank)?

If you do, you are not alone.  The world’s pace has sped up, and ‘busy-ness’ is a common dilemma for most folks these days.

I like to think, if you are too busy to carry out what’s meaningful to you, it’s just a self-leadership signal that you have ‘avoided something‘.

It could be that you’ve just procrastinated about making a decision.   After all, the number of decisions we need to make in a day has exponentially grown since back in Grandma’s day.

Nowadays, you are asked to make hundreds and hundreds of decisions each day, so it is a natural thing for your subconscious to want to take a break and delay some decision-making in these days of so many choices.   Read some decision-making tips.

Here is the thing, though.   Delay in itself can be costly, and a delayed decision can be especially expensive. It’s important to be conscious that you HAVE delayed your decision-making process or that you have let something meaningful slide because you’ve been caught up in ‘busy-ness’.

are you too busyFor example, are you effectively setting limits on what you will work on and will not focus on during your day?  Or are you focusing your list on guiding your day?    If you are working from a huge list of to-dos, chances are, you are feeling busy.

The problem is – when your list is bigger than your capacity to carry things out, you can’t help to be scattered. Your energy is being pulled in too many directions and away from your ability to be more productive.

Want some immediate relief?  Try limiting what you will work on today – on only the most ‘urgent’ and important things, and aim to accomplish 3 or 4 of those.   I bet if you made traction on those 3 or 4 things – you’ll feel pretty fulfilled and more productive.

One of the dangers of having too much to do and not enough time to do it in – is that it is possible to waste precious time listening to your inner critic talking to you about just how much there is to do.  It’s thoughts about “How will I ever accomplish all of this”.

By limiting your list,  you also limit a fair amount of the internal self-talk, and THAT makes you more productive. It’s possible to enjoy your day again and never be too busy to (blank)  when you start to love setting limits and make even MORE efficient decisions.