Distraction Demystified – Interrupting Our Flow


Distractions Interrupt Our Flow

Distractions Interrupt. When we are in flow, we are natural, open and responsive.

When we are driven to accomplish, we are just the opposite.

We can be great at “doing”, and miss the elements of being that put us in a place of flow. We can also be great at “being” and still not be effective in “doing”.

“Doing” matters because while being masterful personal leadership has a lot to do with being; it’s equally about doing.  You want to be effective in what you do too.

There is a catch.  There are reasons why people don’t do effectively and being distracted one of them.

You might welcome distraction or be irked by it.  Your reaction may depend on whether your are in a perspective of ‘doing’ or ‘being’.

 Someone who is driven to accomplish – may be upset by a distraction.  Someone who is just being – may be happily pulled along in time by the distraction after lovely distraction.

Let me demystify a few things about distraction:

  • Distractions can be self-sabotage that come from outside of our awareness.
  • Getting caught in the grip of a distraction can be a result of reduced awareness or focus.
  • You can be distracted as a way to avoid feeling uncomfortable.
  • It can also be a conscious choice as an attempt to gain pleasure from something that has a secondary gain.

Shiny objects cause distractions too.  It’s human nature to look for the good in things or products. It’s problematic when searching for the good, gets in the way of you doing your great work.

The insidious nature of distraction calls us to choose consciously to be distraction-free.  It will sometimes take a firm resolve to overcome the vacuum-like pull of the distraction.

A recent study published in Current Biology suggests that subtle distractions impede our progress towards our goals in a great way. In this study with 95 volunteers, researchers found that subtle distractors change what we are doing more than obvious ones with respect to goal-oriented behaviour.

Counterintuitively, they discovered the disruptions on attention and goal oriented actions were greater with slight distractions.  Larger distractions such as a ringing phone caused fewer distractions than the subtle distractions such as something blinking on our computer screen.

What does this mean?

We underestimate the impact of subtle distractions on our day.    Just have an atrocious day and notice if you search out a distraction of some sort.

We all know about the typical distractions of email checking, of endless meetings and the time it takes to deliver on our responsibilities and commitments. But how much time do we spend thinking about more subtle distractions that we pick up with our senses? (The flutter of a light bulb, a text, or the small, subtle noises in our offices)

Does it matter that something is preventing us from giving our full attention to something else?

I think so.

I believe when we get caught up in distractions it agitates and ruffles our mind-body state.  When we are agitated, it is challenging to remain open and flexible. That then in impedes our ability to be in the flow.  I believe that when we begin with calmness, and then work from there we can be at our most present, productive and engaged.

Even what we call multitasking takes away from the co-creative nature of being 100% percent present with what we’re doing.  It’s distraction as a practice.  Although, for most people, they would probably choose to be less distracted.

ways to avoid distraction

7 Ways to move beyond distraction and get back into the flow:

1.  Know what you want in specific terms and create an inspiring reminder.

The clearer you are about what it is you want versus what it is you don’t want, the more aligned you will be with your intentions. When you can paint a bright and clear picture of what it is you want, and you continually remind yourself of that high purpose, the quicker you can get back on the path if you are distracted.

A qualifying kicker question you can ask, “Is it (this distracting activity) bringing me closer to what I want or away from what I want?” Often the distractions will be things that take you further away from your goal.

2. Consciously take a holiday from distractions.

One of the best ways to change a pattern is to denounce it. Adopt a firm stance against distractions before they happen.  Having a plan in place before distractions attempt to creep, and it won’t just slide by you. You’ve put yourself in a place of choice of not following the pattern.

3. Schedule high-focus time in your calendar. 

It’s a lot easier to guard yourself against t distractions if you limit the time that you need to be on guard. By giving yourself permission to work without distraction for a few hours you build the muscle to enjoy working distraction-free. Over time, you can stretch that out to longer and longer durations.

Try a 50-20-50 working pattern.  Work for 50minutes, switch up to an alternate restorative focus for 20 and then go back to another 50minute high focus session. Setting a rule in advance about no distractions is going to give you at minimum 2 hours of highly productive and efficient time.

4.Be as present as you can.

When we are outside of the present moments often were doing things like worrying about the future or replaying the past. The past invites more stories of the past, and the future, it invites concern and anxiousness.

You have you ever just sat down to watch TV because you wanted to unplug from the stresses of the day? Take a moment to think about if you’re attempting to distract yourself from what is.

5.Be mindful of your inner self-talk.

Our internal self-talk is one of those less obvious places where we allow ourselves to be distracted. The talk, it’s there all the time, so it’s less likely to jump out at us as a distraction. But things like judging or criticizing others (or yourself), comparing you to others, ruminating about the future, having unrealistic expectations – all distract us.

Learning to how to calm your mind and not getting caught up in the meaning of these kinds of thoughts is the best way to lessen these types of distractions.

6.Bring awareness to your feelings and emotions.

Fear and the emotions relating to fear our some of the biggest distractors there are.  Underneath the fear there is an energy in our body, and when we resist all there is to feel there we actively separate ourselves from being present to all that pure focus has to offer.

If you find that you consciously want to do more of the distracting behaviour, it may even be some emotional energy is distracting you.  Do a little self-check-in by asking yourself, “Am I experiencing emotional pain?”.

Staying with your emotions rather than heading off towards a distraction is what is required.

You may recognize things like:

  • desiring to perfect things
  • desiring to perfect situations
  • avoiding tasks or delaying
  • engaging in addictive behaviour

If you notice any of those things, stop and bring yourself present to your emotions, for those are distractors from the momentum of flowing along the path from A to B.

7.Engage your Courage.

One of the ways we can get caught up in distractions is that we are consciously or unconsciously avoiding something. We might be avoiding a social situation, or a feeling, or a negative imagining of the future. When were able to engage our courage and take forward momentum even in the face of fears or limiting beliefs it keeps us moving forward and in the flow.

All seven of the above ideas relate directly to being more present with yourself in mind body and spirit.  If your desire is to be more focused and less distracted, the most direct route is to master your connection with your personal presence as part of a personal leadership development plan.

When we are in full presence, we are in the flow, and we can better enjoy the ease, grace and enjoyable experience of life and make the best use of our time rather than time using us.


7 Ways to Move Forward with Greater Certainty

Certainty is about knowing with clarity and having no lingering doubts.  Internal certainty is about convincing yourself first and then engaging some decision making,  courage and a willingness to risk.

When you spend time improving your level of understanding of both your destination as well as taking the time to resolve doubts or barriers that stand in the way of you reaching your outcome – you will allow yourself to move forward faster – and with greater certainty. Things such as conflicting intentions and shortfalls of resources, time, action and personal presence are just a few of the things that can create doubts and barriersMoving forward with certainty to moving forward with greater certainty.

When we engage “go” with out using our multiple intelligences – we sometime go along fine – and then the doubts  and  fuzzy- clarity moments begin to happen.  On the other hand, when we take some time and make a plan – and tap into our different internal resources  it’s a lot easier to move forward with certainty  because we have put some in some pre-thinking and we  have tested  out our intuition.

Here are 7 ways to move forward with greater certainty:

1. Change your hopes and dreams into Intentions

It’s a common phrase to hear ” you get what you intend not what you hope for” – and it is true.  Intentions are active, positive and are grounded in the present.   Hopes are tethered out there in the future somewhere.  Bringing a more grounded approach based in action will help you to move forward faster.

2. Ask yourself certainty-raising questions

Questions such as “Is this path in alignment with my heart and soul?” and “Is this truly meaningful for me?” are great ways to increase your level of certainty as you move toward your outcomes.  When we align our sense of purpose with our destination – it’s much, much easier to move forward with certainty.   A lovely by-product of moving forward with complete soul alignment is you gain immense energy for your journey just knowing you can serve those who are really in need of your service. Even if it is you.

3. Learn the power of intuition

Intuition can assist you to move faster in a number a of ways.  Intuition accesses all your awareness just waiting to be recalled for a specific purpose.  You can use it as you feel your way forward.  Intuition is where you find yourself merging with that greater awareness that lives out side of yourself.  It’s  you recognizing the true meaning of a non verbal communication or a glint of an eye.   In terms of personal leadership it is a lot about taking responsibility and acting.  There is nothing more dis-empowering than having an intuition and then not acting on it.   So part of the practice of personal leadership is learning to act on your intuition consistently.  That doesn’t mean always being right – it does mean however – you are always in action around your intuition.  Your intuition is like a muscle – you have to use it – or it atrophies.

4. Clear all the barriers out of the way so you can more easily reach your  intention

Barriers to your outcomes are the #1 thing I see preventing folks from reaching their desired destination – and only for the fact that they haven’t make up a game plan to get beyond their doubts.   One of the more common ones?   Conflicting intentions.   Conflicting intentions are two energies that are in conflict with one another.   Usually one is our desire – a conscious intention.   The other may be less conscious – and pattern of behavior or thinking that is meant to serve our basic needs such as safety.  When you take the time to meet the positive intentions of  conflicting energies – you will feel a greater sense of certainty as a by-product.

5. Stay with your Yes’s and leave those maybe’s behind

We all have Yes’s in our lives.  Those things we can unequivocally say yes to.  Those things we really, really want.  The things that bring us joy and happiness.  The things that move our hearts and our bodies.   They are unique to each person – but we have them.   We also have maybe’s.  Those things that could fall into either a yes, or into a no column if they just had a little bit something more.  If you want to move forward faster with certainty – put those maybe’s aside.  They are not ripe yet -and the time you spend holding a grow light over them – is holding you back.   If they ripen up – they will grow into a yes on their own.

6. Listen to your own drum and not the hum of others

Sometimes the fear that keeps us in the slow lane has a lot to do with the garbage dumped on us from others.  A good percentage of the things that can keep us static is to do with the fears of others – passed along to us.  When we look for validation outside of ourselves we are in fact looking for love – out side of ourselves.   Listening to our own knowing and love is a wonderful key to moving forward.

7.Look for the evidence you need

We all have ways we are convinced of something.   Perhaps it’s something we need to see,  hear or feel.  Perhaps we need those things to occur once – or maybe we need things to occur many times.   When you see the evidence that convinces you – to move forward.  Act on it.  So often though, we see the evidence we need – and yet – we wait.   We hold back because we don’t want to fail.  Looking for the evidence means finding your own certainty – faster.   What would happen if you changed your mindset so that failing was learning.  Might you want to fail faster?   Get the evidence you need.  Act and watch for your evidence.  You are either going to identify some barriers to overcome – or you are going to increase your knowing.  Both are going to get you closer to your certainty – faster.

It’s true, moving forward takes courage, integrity, decision making  and sense of adventure.  After all you are leaving the known and moving into the less known.  Spending some time identifying the things you can do in the present can make the journey into the future a lot easier.