You don’t need the same amount of courage that you would to say fight a war, just a little burst of courage will do the trick. It is the willingness to go beyond your existing beliefs, and to open your heart and mind to new perspectives, new learning and new experiences that will bring you the kind of courage you will need. You will find that courage is like a snow-ball; it grows and grows the more you use it. Before long, you will be making courage left, right and center.
2. Be willing to learn some key skills
Personal leadership is like any other pursuit. It’s based on a skill set. Some examples of personal leadership skill sets are: the ability to know what you are feeling and understand with awareness what the feeling is representing, being able to change your emotional state by choice, being able to be fully present and the ability to have great communication between you and another or others, and most importantly between you and your inner self. These skill sets develop over time as you practice leading from the inside. The more you practice the more you will learn.
3. Be willing to be a little inspirational
Once you begin aligning your own thoughts, feelings and deeds to your own north start – be prepared to be told you are inspirational. The truth is, people will begin to watch you as you lead from the inside – out. When you are being a personal leader – you are inspirational. Just begin by leading yourself – the inspiration will find its own. You might be surprised what another person might accomplish – just because they witnessed you as a role-model.
4. Be willing to be challenged
It’s common to feel a little challenged in your own self-expression when you first begin on the path of being a personal leader. When you are being fully-self expressed – you will remind others of places where they might be as self -expressed. It is the mirror you will hold up for those around you – that may challenge folks in their own experience. Just remember, people are responsible for there own emotional responses and you for yours.
Challenge is also a part of change. As a personal leader you will learn how to embrace change and to learn to be comfortable in the middle of the uncertainty that change brings.
5. Be willing.
When you are willing – you are open. Openness is key in personal leadership. Being willing to feel what ever comes your way – is one way to set your mark as a personal leader. A lot of people are habituated to go a away from their feelings. As a personal leader – you will be looking forward to feeling all that there is to feel. When you are willing – you are present. Being present is another place to be willing as a personal leader.
It is through being present that you will be best able to sense how you are feeling about things and you will be best able to hear your intuition about the direction you are traveling.
Integrity is often mentioned when people start talking about the qualities of their favorite leaders. Integrity becomes a part of a conversation in personal leadership, when you have come to an awareness there is for you, an opportunity to live more fully in integrity.
The word integrity originates from the Latin word integritas meaning “whole“.
As a personal leader, there can be many different intentions you can set around raising your own level of personal integrity. It’s possible to have a high level of integrity in one area of your life and still be a little out of integrity in another. So, as a goal you might now desire to increase your integrity in the areas you a feel lack of integrity.
For example, when you are in integrity in something to do with the public – and then privately – choose not to maintain the same standards, you push aside your own personal fulfillment. When you only are integrity in part of your life – vs your whole life you are missing out on feeling that wholeness. Have you heard the saying “public success and private failure” ?
When you are in integrity in your entire life – there is a sense of deep fulfillment that can be yours.
Here are 9 tips to live your live in greater personal leadership integrity:
1. See the big picture and your role in it
Seeing and reflecting on your desires in relation to both social and political context is a key distinction for a personal leader who is in personal integrity. Understanding the norm (the spoken or unspoken values, rules and boundaries) in your culture, your community and relationships will assist you in understanding the needs and expectations those around you have. When you are in integrity – you both honour your own deepest values in connection with the context of your environment.
The learning or new awareness that is required is the capacity to be able to hear your owns soul’s voice without compromising who you are and, at the same time, being in collaboration in your relationships and community.
Having an open mind allows you to bring more integrity of choices as you can then see ALL of the different perspectives that may be presented. Seeing the entirety of a situation will assist you in making decisions in integrity. Having an open heart will allow you to pick up on your instincts and your intuition so you can bring in all of your senses into awareness.
3. Be true
Telling the truth and honouring your commitments are two cornerstones in being in greater integrity. Truthfullness helps your head, heart and behaviours be in alignment, which is wholeness in the form of congruence. When you honour your commitments – you honour the integrity of the relationships you have with others. There is a wholeness that comes from the connection we create when we honour our commitments.
If you want to challenge yourself to up your game in how you honour your commitments – try to never cancel an appointment or commitment you have made in favor for another. Try this for a month – and see what you notice. Or, have you been late for meetings or appointments? Why not increase your level of integrity in being on time? Trying arriving 5-10 minutes early for all of your appointments and see what you notice.
4. Be courageous
It can take courage to set an intention to increase your level of integrity in an area of your life. Somewhere in the process, you will need to go beyond your existing beliefs an normal behaviours to do it. This is what courage is – it is knowing those things are there – and then moving forward anyway.
It can be courageous to start saying no to someone who asks you to for example, take on a project which is not in alignment with your own personal values. It can be courageous to say no an offer of front row seats at a concert – when you have already have a commitment to help someone else.
When you start living with more and more integrity – you will for sure bump up against the call for greater courage – no matter what area of your life you are talking about. The call though, is for you to see things with accurate thinking – and then choose to move forward.
5. Pursue mastery
Integrity in your chosen skills in life means reaching a level of competence. When you pursue mastery in your skills – you increase your level of integrity. Office buildings are today, filled with folks in leadership roles without the leadership skills they need to be great leaders. In personal leadership – you choose the skills of your own game – and you master them. Skills mastery is one of those places where you are a role model. Those that will be attracted to following you – will want to trust that you have the skills they want to emulate.
6. Be willing to change
When we fear or resist change – we are actually caught up in the illusion that things remain static. That somethings are unchanging. In our lives – everything changes. This is an awareness that can increase your level of integrity immediately. If you find yourself making plans or designing strategy based on something remaining static – that is a good sign you are a little out of integrity. Everything changes; our minds, our bodies, our relationships, things in our environment …and the list goes on.
7. Recognize the love is within you
When we seek validation or approval from anywhere other than from within our own awareness, we are in effect, out of integrity with ourselves. If you find that you are looking for someone else to validate who you are – you are missing the awareness that you are already whole and complete. There is nothing missing – you are just not in connection with your “love“. When you are in full integrity with the awareness that you are whole and complete. You can enjoy the wonder of change, the wonder of the moment and also have a high level of self regard.
8. Deliberate and discriminate your desires
Impulse control is the ability to resist or deny an impulse, drive, or temptation to act. Just watch someone get caught out of integrity – and often it is because they haven’t resisted an impulse.
When you take the time to stop and think things through with accurate thinking you can avoid costly rash actions by bringing the complete picture, and give your self time to have the opportunity to stand in the many perspectives before acting out your desires. It is in the deliberation and the discrimination that will bring you the extra time needed to align yourself with your personal values and think about things such as consequences.
One technique to do this effectively, is to take an “as if” perspective. Act as you have followed thru on your desire – and then check for consequences of your action. By seeing the imagined future in the present – you have an opportunity to not regret your past.
9. Feel everything
Occasionally, you will see people move outside of integrity when there is something that they really don’t want to feel. It is in the avoidance of feeling that people loose track of their intuition and instincts and even the capacity to live in the wonder of the moment. When you feel things fully – you experience more connection with yourself – with others, and with the awareness that we are all “ONE”.
The next time you criticize someone for example, feel in to the feeling that was stirred up in you. You might just find that the critic was formed out of the energy of something you yourself did not want to feel.
Deciding to live your live with greater integrity may seem like a big job to take on. Attempting to take it on all at once can seem like an overwhelming project. It’s a matter of practice that is all. Start small and than keep on expanding. Eventually you will be the kind of personal leader that YOU would want to follow.