7 Simple Ways to Gain Confidence with a Personal Leadership Plan



It’s possible your level of self-confidence has changed over the years.   There may be times – you felt very self-confident.

There may be times as well when you found your confidence waning, especially after a time of being away from your self-leadership skill set.

Here are some distinctions that are often really easy to forget:

1. Self-confidence is not a static destination, instead – it’s a state of being that is both fluid and cumulative.

2. Self-confidence is a mind-body state that requires the congruence between intention, repeating resourceful thoughts and emotional energy.

3. There is a difference between being confident around “doing a skill”, and being a confident person.

Here are some key awarenesses about confidence in action:

You pretty much know when you are having the experience of being confident around a skill-set.  You might even notice yourself standing a little taller and speaking with a stronger, truer voice.

What might be less conscious, is how to go about making  your own confidence grow by building a practice.

Why confidence is important in self-leadership:

There are three key things that you’ll do as a personal leader:

  1. You will influence others based on being a role model of what matters most. If your certainty is greater than their doubt – you will have influence.
  2. You will choose how to respond in any given situation. The more confident you are with your choices and  how you will respond will directly affect your outcome.
  3. You will be taking action. The more confident you are in your actions, behaviors and habits, the more effective you can be.

These are just some of the reasons improving your self-confidence is actually a personal leadership development opportunity.

THERE IS a price for self-confidence, it is to be in action. We earn our confidence by extending ourselves and then accumulate confidence as we go. The more we extend, the more we build.

This is why confidence-building can become a habit or a practice that you can design.

“Confidence building, it’s the practice of being willing to be uncomfortable”

One of the easiest ways  to build your confidence is to include your journey inside a personal leadership development plan because it will be something you’ll do step-by-step.

Here are seven simple ways to immediately improve your self-confidence:

  1. Recognize practicing and gaining mastery, improves self-confidence

The awareness that it’s only realistic to get confident by undertaking a practice of self-mastery is an important one. Getting caught up in the expectation that you’d be masterful at something without practice is both a limited thought and expectation, that in the end, after the probable reality sets in – may actually take away from your level of confidence – rather than add to it.

“Struggle and disappointment are two of the biggest confidence drains out there”

Tip: follow your bliss. When you are passionate about something, it’s a lot easier to stick with the practices that lead you to watch your mastery. Design practices that will bring you closer.

  1. Deal with any stuff that might be in the way, right away

Recognize that there may be fears that might be diminishing your level of self-confidence. You might just be really surprised to find out that a fear about being isolated or a fear of criticism might be big barriers to improving your self-confidence.

Tip: Write out a list of things that might be getting in the way of your self-confidence and think of a few ways you might begin to master your fear.

3. Master your thinking. Think better to feel better

Our thoughts have a huge impact on how we feel about ourselves  when you learn how to control the internal committee of critics and create streams of thought that support you and not weigh you down.

Retrain your brain to serve you. Taming the gremlins and maintaining separation between what is truth and what is just an interpretation of an internal critic, are the first steps to mastering your thinking.

4. Master your emotions. You’ll do better when you feel better

When you have emotional mastery, you can choose how you feel in any given moment. Then you can stop reacting and start responding to things.  When you do this, you’ll struggle less. Begin by making an agreement with yourself that you’ll no longer avoid feeling things fully.

Tip: Begin today by making yourself a promise that you’ll be present to whatever shows up.

5. Master the practice of your skill of choice

Confidence is the by-product of competence. As you improve your competence your confidence will grow.

Tip: Use this simple method to plan out your skill-set learning. Download this free planning form.

6. See the bigger perspective

Seeing the big view of things as you access how confident you are, is one of the best ways to put things into perspective. There is nothing like a good reality check into your true magnificence.

All too often confidence dips can be directly linked to an interpretation and not the full truth of the situation.

7. Be in your best personal presence

Living in the present moment helps to quiet negative self-talk.  Fear just can’t live in the present moment; for when you are present – the illusionary nature of fear can be witnessed.   Personal presence is by far the most resourceful state you can leverage.  It’s from this place you can be your most flexible, creative and knowing self.

Tip: Fastest way to bring yourself present?  Just stop and take 3 slow long breaths.


What has helped you become more self-confident around the things you choose to do?

Want More Out of Life? Try a Personal Leadership Development Plan


Have you ever asked yourself,  “Is this all there is?” or  ” Is this as good as it gets?”   

A life-limiting challenge for a family member prompted these questions to question come up recently, and I can understand why; they have settled – and they know it.  Have you too settled in some small way?

If you have on some level wondered “could there be more ?”, Then you may enjoy this post about what it means to take a look at what might be your more.   Once you name what you want ‘your more’ to be; add it to your own customized Personal Leadership Development Plan.

“Wanting more in life is to want better.   A better day, a better you, a better life, or a better world”

Here are some ideas to take a look at when I think of what it is to have more – and it is for sure not about having more meaningless “stuff”.  Having more, has a purpose.   If your more can help you better connect, become more masterful or be in better service in the world – then this is a perspective where I’ll say more is a personal leadership development mindset.

Here are 7 ideas around “MORE” for your personal leadership development plan:

Want More. When you want more – the likelihood of your being able to get more increases.  When we squash our dreams and desires with small beliefs that we shouldn’t, or can’t do something – a part of us shrivels a little.  If you have ever had a dream – and you have kept it to yourself – you know what I am talking about here.

Have you settled?  Settling for a smaller life than you imagined is just an example where the want for more may have been silenced.    If you have molded yourself to another’s ideal vision for the way you live – it just might be an opportunity to look at what you most value.

There is a basic and so fact that when we live our values, and we live them fully – our personal fulfillment level rises.

Do you want more personal fulfillment?   If so, get better at living your own values and life as you self – define success.

Just remember, wanting more is ok; it’s just about your self-expression.

Deserve More. It’s ok to expect more. You are worth it.

If you have ever thought,  “I don’t need that” or “I don’t deserve that”   What are you really saying?

I am not talking about unconscious excesses here.  I am talking about self-full, simple, meaningful desires for better,  that would improve your life.   The opportunity here is to look at what it is you most want and then find ways to receive it.

Give More. When you undertake “a path of better”, you are saying through your behaviors that you are willing to go outside your normal comfort zone of acting and are willing to give an increased effort.   The by-products of approaching your life with an “I will give more” attitude is many. Things like increases in self-confidence, increased efficiency and productivity are just a few.

Imagine how much more you would be able to carry out if you just had the ability to give more.

There is a quiet concept here.  It’s that no more would you be able to spread yourself too thin, where you are giving less to everyone.   The capacity to give more – is rooted in the idea – that you would give your time and energy to what is most meaningful for you – and then re-align the rest of your energy.

Design for More. Did you know you can increase your capacity for something – by designing the environment around you to support that increase in capacity.  By changing your environments to support your upcoming excellence,  you can create an inspirational vacuum to pull yourself forward.

This can be as simple as surrounding yourself with the people, ideas and things that are going to support you to be your very best – and just releasing the rest.  Or, it can be a process where you dive deep and design your environments, so your evolution happens with ease.

It’s up to you how you approach it – just know you can consciously create a supportive environment for yourself – no matter your current circumstance.  Once you gain the awareness of these supportive environments – they become the blueprint for your personal leadership development plan.

Experience More. We have parts of ourselves that like things to stay comfortable.  Expanding outside of that comfort zone can feel discomforting to those parts.

The choice to experience more in our lives – is a choice of keeping ourselves in momentum when we wish movement.   In that choice, it asks us to do more and feel more.

Now those things in themselves are wonderful.   The skill needed is just to learn how to expand your capacity.   Your capacity to do, and your capacity to feel, and both of those can be easily learned.

If you are ready to undertake more in your life – it might be a sign that you are ready for things to be better.

Have you thought of what you might incorporate into a personal leadership development plan  – that will assist you to get better?