Using Peace as Guide to Your Own Self Leadership

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Let’s define PEACE as a state of calm personal presence where you are not caught up in any story of the past or worry of the future;  where you can easily maintain your personal emotional poise.

Peace can be a guiding energy in your personal leadership if you allow it.  Peace has an understanding that you are at personal ease with your choices and that you are flexible, open and responsive.   

Bottom line: It’s much easier to lead yourself with grace and ease when are in a peaceful state.

 

“Be at peace to be great at your personal leadership and be a great personal leader to also have inward peace.

Take a moment now and think about the last time you didn’t feel peaceful.  Can you see how, more than likely, you were frustrated, anxious or fearful in some small way?  

When you get caught up in non-peaceful energies, sometimes it can often be because of one of these 4 scenarios:

  1.    You are off balance
  2.     You are overly referencing the past – and applying interpretations, and living into those
  3.     You are caught in a limited perspective – and are excluding other possible perspectives
  4.     You are locked into an expectation and are reacting to that expectation

The above 4 things can be sources of struggle or frustration. 

Personal Leadership PeaceHere is how to gently turn your struggles into a greater sense of peace:

Pursue emotional mastery.  When you can be in a place of poise with your emotions, you leave yourself free to succeed.  When you have grace with your emotional range, you can freely express yourself without the fear of being overwhelmed by your feelings. 

If you shake when you are angry, if you cry to the point of interrupting your words, if you stay in a bad mood for more than a few moments, if you get stuck and stay there, or if you have things in your life you don’t want – these can be signs that your level of emotional mastery could use an upgrade.

Be diligent about looking for and being open to alternate perspectives.    Even things like being overly identified with your roles, life experience, moments of pride or failure can take you out of having an expansive perspective.  It can be so easy to limit who you are, just by saying, “I am (blank)”— for what happens in that experience is that you leave out all the other great things you are.  

Here are a few quick tips for understanding if you have embraced enough perspectives to put yourself in a place of flexibility and openness in your personal leadership:

  •         If you have 1 choice of perspective, without a doubt, you are in a limited perspective for you have blocked out any other possibility.  This is the “my-way-or-the-highway” stance.
  •         If you have 2 choices, you are caught in a dilemma.  An either/or choice is a set up for conflict and dis-ease.  It asks you to be constantly judging and comparing, which can take you away from peace and towards conflict.
  •         If you have at least 3 choices, you are in a place to be more at ease, not only because there are more options – it is also a gateway to the ultimate in flexibility where you can easily create perspectives and use your personal presence to sense the best choice for yourself.

Be judgment sensitive.

Judging, comparing, or criticizing something is a great inclusion as an element in a creative process – it is not a great thing, however, when it becomes a constant way of being.

Here is the biggest problem with the act of judging. It takes you out of connection because, in order to for you to judge something, you need to consciously disassociate yourself from it. (So you can see it clearly).

The problems come in, however, when you see yourself as ‘there – out there’, and you forget that you are also part of what you are judging.  In short, you are blocking the perspective of ‘wholeness’. 

You don’t have to look very far to see this in action.  Just listen for someone judging another.   Then, notice if part of the energy of what they are judging is someone alive within themselves. Often it is.

Have intentions instead of expectations.

Expectation is the mother of all disappointments. Expectations often bring suffering because we are not rewarded as we expect.

It is an illusory world where we bring into the present moment that which we have anchored and become identified with.  We expect things being a certain way including our place in that scenario. It’s illusory because it is made up. It is imagined.

In a dramatic sense, expectations are your attempt of trying to control the universe.   At first glance at that statement, you may say nay, but if you think about it long enough – you can sense the energy within you when you would like something to turn out a certain way.
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Doubt Drabs – What To Do When You Doubt Your Own Leadership

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How to solve a dilemma of doubt

 

Got the Doubt Drabs? Have you ever found yourself caught in the dilemma of a doubt?    Like indecision and procrastination, doubt is putting up a challenge to a state of change on a body level.

Why you doubt something in your life:

If you doubt something – chances are – on some level you’ve stopped trusting and acting on your intuition.

This uncertainty is a demonstration of both losing your connection with personal presence and holding on to a fear of the possibility of overwhelming feelings.

The common illusion is that you can solve your uncertainty easiest with your mind – where actually, it is your body that will bring you home to clarity with the greater speed.

 Getting caught in the cycle of doubt can be expensive

If your project gets paralyzed because you are stuck in a cycle of the doubt – this can be expensive.  Indecision is expensive.  Doubt is draining.

 How to get through and beyond your doubt

Learn some key distinctions

  • Learn to make a clear distinction between your intuition and a feeling level response to avoid
  • Make clear distinctions between knowing and thinking

It’s easy to fall back into an over-thinking pattern when you are caught between choices.  So often this stickiness is experienced like Ping-Pong back and forth between the choices at hand.    Knowing happens when the wave of uncertainty clear – and that happens only in presence.

Learn to wait for clarity

Sometimes there is an emotional wave to wait through before uncertainty lifts.   Learning to live in the wonder of uncertainty, and still have momentum, helps you to avoid the pitfalls of getting caught in a cycle of not knowing. This is especially needed when you are caught in a cycle of toxic thinking.  When you have inward conflict such as a conditioning of doubt – forcing an outcome doesn’t move you out of problems.  Being open and flexible allows you be receptive to the knowing that may show up.

Learn to stay present – even in the face of the “Unfaceable.”

If you started doubting as a stop gap to having to face someone confronting you or shaming you – the opportunity is to learn how to be with the feelings by expanding your capacity to feel.

Learn to remember the future as clearly as you do the past

When you can begin to leverage visions of the future with flexibility and expanded awareness.  The concern around the ‘choice’ becomes less because you know you have the flexibility to learn and adjust.   You learn that being in momentum creates magic, and the state of sitting in doubt is more expensive.

Looking for some specific ideas to overcome your doubt – here are 7 ways to overcome doubt or uncertainty and 7 ways to move forward with greater certainty.