Influence and Inspire – 7 Ways for Personal Leadership

16 tablespoons of effortIn Personal Leadership, being effective influencing is when you inspire others to a point of view or behaviour based in a perspective of Love and not Fear.

If you were to try to influence through fear, you break others down vs. lifting them up through inspiration.

“Inspiration is a tool of a personal leader”

Here are 7 ways to both influence and inspire as a personal leader:

1. Have a meaningful conduit for your self expression.  There is a seed within you that is bursting wanting to be expressed.   Everyone’s seed is unique to them.   It could be a garden, a poem, a cause, a legacy, being an inspirational role model, being a guide, a healer, a painter, a poet, a perspective or anything else for that matter.  The what is important to you; it’s the medium that inspires you and at the same time has a theme of purposefulness held inside it.  This purposefulness inspires and enrolls others who are called to the same cause.

2. Create a container for your purposeful expression.  Create a place to which other’s would like to belong.  It could be a home for your family, a place for your client tribe, a membership website or a special place in your community.  It’s a place where you can communicate through your own humanity with those who are attracted to your expression of purpose.  It’s a place where you can be in service. Service is inspiring.

3.  Show up.  Influencers; are seen.  If no one witnesses you; there is no one to inspire.

4. Be a great listener.  Be as great of a listener as you are great expressing.   Let others show and tell you of their experience in a deep enough way that you really understand their words and view. This means meeting people where they are –  through better listening and then following it up with effective communication honouring the words spoken as you listen.

5. Be trustworthy.  Being worthy of trust means being consistent, being congruent, being caring and increasing your capacity as situations require. People are inspired and influenced by those they trust.

6. Honour and live your values.  It is through your values demonstrated that you have the greatest opportunity to influence through inspiration.  When someone witnesses you living true to your values – it inspires them to live more fully their own.  You will naturally attract others who have similar values to your own when your essence of values. This kind of congruence is inspiring.

7. Take a 16 tbsp perspective.  16 tablespoons added to a cup one at a time, fills the cup.  This metaphor  can be an inspirational light for small consistent action repeated until a cup is filled.  Your biggest opportunity to inspire and influence is to fill your own cup; 1 tablespoon at a time. THAT is inspiring.

Inspire Yourself – 5 Steps to Your Own Personal Leadership Metaphor

Inspire Yourself with NaturePersonal leadership has a lot to do with identifying needs and providing solutions.   When we identify needs for ourselves and others and then provide solutions to those needs.  We lead the way forward.

There are many structures you can use to aid in yourself on your self leadership development plan or path.  A favourite can be to use metaphor as inspiration.

One of my favourite is to use ‘nature’ in a metaphor as a structure for inspiration that you can often review.

Especially useful if you find yourself in an exhaustion cycle; a nature metaphor can reconnect you with something bigger when you are not feeling that way yourself.

  • As an example, here is my own personal nature-based metaphor:
    “I am global wind, a soft gentle breeze, billowing awareness through creative communication so you can first inspire, then exhale – peace.”

In my personal metaphor, the soft gentle breeze describes my gentle nature and delivery. The fact the wind is global reminds me to extend my reach and to remember we are all part of the global ONE – and that awareness is my solution to the illusions of separateness that I see as the pain in this world.

 “Creating my personal nature-based metaphor was one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself”

My own metaphor is both representative of my life purpose and a reminder of what is most essential in my life.  It has evolved over the past 10 years – yet it began with just a few simple steps.

The idea is a simple one. It is to creatively combine – elements of who you are, who you wish to be and what you experience, as needed in the world into an inspirational statement that moves you to focused committed action.
If you have the thought ” I want to get this perfect”,  just know – it is a practice that evolves over time – and you don’t need to get things “perfect” right out of the gate. It’s a beginning – and a beginning that can be extremely useful – and – that can evolve over time.
Your statement can be as literal or as deep as you create it – and it can be anything from a simple touch stone or if you are like me, it can be become such an integral part of your life; you can use it as criteria for decision making for your investment of time, money and resources.

My own metaphor still moves me as I repeat it. It moves me, because within it – is the solution to the pain I witness in the world, and also within it – is the essence of me.
 Are you ready to craft a metaphor statement that could be a touch stone for yourself?

Here is how to create your personal leadership metaphor:

  1. Identify a solution or outcome that is desperately needed either in the world or your community. Understanding what has been missing, or the pain you have witnessed is often a good starting point for identifying a solution. It’s more than common that folks can make awareness of pain – a purpose. Sam Keen, author of Fire in the Belly, has described this awareness of what is missing in the world like a “vacuum” where a real void has been created.
    Often we are each our own best knower of where the vacuum has been – because we have experienced it. And this void often is a wonderful space to in which to place your solution.
  2. Identify an element in nature that inspires you. An element that has the energies of who you wish yourself to be. Whether it is a rock, fire, water, tree, mountain or any other element in nature. Trust your intuition to choose it.
  3. Identify the qualities within that element that inspires you. This is the fun part. Once you have chosen your nature element. Play with the qualities a little – describe them, write them out. For example a mountain may have expansive perspective, a solid grounding, a passion within waiting to burst… you get the idea.
  4. Identify who it is that will benefit from your solution. Is it all of mankind? Is it children? Is it our leaders? Who in your community would benefit?
  5. Identify what they will then be able to do as a result of consuming or learning of your solution. This is what makes it very meaningful.

Then put it all together… the formula goes like this:
I am a _____2_____, Who _______3_________, Who helps _____4_______ to _____1______ so that they may _____5_______.”

Don’t worry about getting it perfect; it will evolve over time.

The idea is to make a connection with the pattern of who you are and what you want to offer the world – and to connect THAT to something bigger in nature and then to bring all that together in service of others.
Creating a personal metaphor statement that reminds you of your own greatness and how you can serve the world can be a way to self-inspire. It doesn’t need to be a nature one …. the real key is it is something that inspires you.

I hope you enjoy creating your own personal metaphor and that you find it as resourceful as I do and as others do.