How to Focus your Energy for Personal Growth

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How to Focus for Personal Growth

Here is something to think about:

Before we talk about the ways you can focus your energy, it’s important to take a moment and think about your current orientation to this upcoming year.  

  • Are your thoughts filled with anticipation about what you can create for the next year?
  • Are you focused on what you want more of?  
  • Or are you finding your orientation leaning more towards what you do not want to repeat this year?  
  • Or worse, are you bringing no thought to what you want to manifest?
  • Or worse even still have you been totally distracted?  

There’s a universal truth that exists in coaching, “what you focus your attention and energy on you will create more of it in your life.

So the focus here is to share with you how to bring your thoughts in alignment with what you do want rather than what you do not want.

5 Things You Can Do To Better Focus Your Energy:

1.Be courageous.  Courage is needed anytime we go out beyond our existing beliefs and comfort zones because courage is the first step in almost any new action or change of limited belief.  It takes even small acts of courage to pursue your desires in the face of someone having a different idea of what you should want.  When that happens, it takes courage to take a stand for living from your inner guidance.  The more you align with courage, the more energy you can spend in your actual pursuit rather than being concerned about maintaining the status quo.

Courage and Authenticity go hand in hand

2.Embrace your authentic desires.  The more you can embrace your innermost desires the better able you will be able to fulfill your sacred promise to yourself. As you harness your courage not only will you experience a personal fulfillment and joy but also your commitment to manifest will increase.

When you commit to manifest your desires, you become inspired, and you will be pulled forward by what is known as a gratitude-based energy. A heightened sense of energy will be released the more you can focus on your desires.

If you doubt this to be true, then I invite you to feel the difference between doing something you enjoy doing and something you loathe. Can you feel the palpable difference between the two desires?

Don’t let your Ego get your way

3.Anticipate without attachment. One of the best ways to focus your manifesting energy is to affirm your desire through anticipating it. Studies around brain neuroplasticity have taught us that positive thinking changes our brains. As you embody the energy of anticipation, you access some higher states of awareness such as love, joy, and curiosity.

These higher energetic states of awareness have an attraction energy.

However, if you mix anticipation with thoughts of expectation it has an adverse effect by lowering the energy level into a place of separateness. This separateness cuts off your access to expanded possibilities.

But when you are mindful about your openness you are more likely to be in a place where you can respond to messages, cues, and opportunities that may present themselves.

Be Open

4.Allow vs. expect.   When we focus our energy on allowing vs. expecting, we open our awareness to “what else?.”  Often our initial desire provides just a glimpse of the picture; it is the movement towards our desire, that begins to fill in the full picture.  When you can stay in an open and allowing state you are able again to pick up on the subtle information that is around you.

 Access to subtle cues happens because you are living in a state of presence.

However, anytime you fall into expecting something to be a certain way, you have left the present moment, and are relying on outdated and more than likely unrealistic information.  That out-dated perspective will leave you out in the cold and often leave you disappointed because reality can pretty much never equal your imagination.  

So much better to stay open and allowing.

Put yourself in action

5.Forward Your momentum by taking action.  Manifesting your desires will require some physical action on your part. Dreaming is one part of the goal-setting process, but it is only effective when those dreams are brought back down to earth that makes them come true. That means taking the plans you created in step three and taking action on them now. It’s only through action that things become real and clear. If you want to know what is true, then take action and move closer towards it. The act of doing so will reveal to you the things that are working and the challenges that will require you to dig deeper to move successfully through the process.

There is no better way to focus your energy to manifest than to take progressive movement toward your desires. You must remember to be courageous, affirm and allowing as you move forward.

Take the risk to benefit your personal growth

Creating change in your life takes courage, authenticity, planning and forward momentum in the face of challenges. While it may appear simple to do so, it’s not always easy. Always remember that without risk and challenges you can’t grow and change for the better.


3 Alternatives to New Years Resolutions

New Years ResolutionsAre you setting New Years resolutions this year? Or Are you Setting a goal?
If you are setting a New Years resolution, you should know, According to a recent PRNewswire release, 60% of us no longer make New Years resolutions, yet we still desire to reduce the stresses of life and have better work-life balance.

In short, 60% of us – are outwardly stating, we want things to be better.

Whether you enjoy setting New Year resolutions, goals or intentions, or just want to re-ignite your life,  the holiday season can be one of the best times of the year to spend some time thinking about what you would like to better.
The same PR Newswire release states, “The trend in long-term targets for the New Year, rather than typical New Years resolutions comes after seven in 10 people say they feel the old New Years resolutions are a waste of time and never stuck to. The average person will break their New Year’s resolutions in just under five weeks. Two thirds said their approach to 2013 is to make gradual improvements without ”putting a name on it” or setting unrealistic targets. “

The folks who are shooting for small incremental changes are on to something. Avoiding putting a name on it however, is more about avoiding change than it is embracing it ,so let’s save that perspective for another article.

If you are desiring change, here are 3 alternatives to a New Years Resolution you can think about:

With all three choices – you can begin with the questions. These questions will bring to the surface what you truly desire to change for the better:

  • “What would I like to have better in my life?”
  • “What do I really want, that I don’t currently have” or perhaps
  • “What do I have that I don’t currently want?”
  • “What would make me extra-ordinarily happy to be working towards?”

Can’t decide what type of format to choose?

Here are a few features of goals, themes, and intentions:
Goal Setting

To set a goal, you will identify the definitions of success. You will identify the place you are now, and the place you want to be (and be consistently aware of the gap between the two).  In a goal setting, you will lay out milestones, strategies, projects, and tasks – and the route to your self-defined success will be laid out and your path to your destination is set.

A theme for the Year
To set a theme or two for your next year, a much simpler approach than goal setting applies. Think in terms of what you value, and for each value theme, find the specific behaviours that would honour that value. Then act in alignment with those behaviors consistently.

Making intentions for they Year
To set an intention, you describe your in the present tense, describing it as if it is happening now and then raising awareness of any barriers to you having your intention already. The intention repeated continually, together with your work to overcome the barriers –this will be your focus in this type of planning.

All 3 alternatives to New Years Resolutions have these in common:

1. Clarity about what you want to be better in your life.
This can also mean you are crystal clear on what you no longer want, and you turn that awareness into positively stating what you do want.

2. Clarity of your ‘internal’ reasons for what you want
Goals which are created for validation or to keep up with the Jones’s – often fail because the intrinsic meaning is not there. When you are able to identify why an outcome is really, really meaningful to you – it creates a vacuum to pull you forward the effort required to meet your goal.

3. Clarity about how to move from where you are now to where you want to be.
There is always a better way. Mentors share these. Coaches elicit these. Understanding the most effective route to cross the gap of where you are now and your eventual success is needed.

4. Small consistent behavior and small measured targets in alignment with what you want more of.
Breaking your actions into small incremental steps will assist you to maintain focus by eliminating the overwhelm that comes from having to hold to many details in your thoughts. When things are bite-sized – they are much, easier to chew.

5. Awareness of any barriers in your way – and an awareness of how to get around those barriers.
Barrier removal is the work to be done after you are clear of what you really, really want. This is the consistent focus that is needed until your outcome has been reached.

6. You are clear that your desires are within your own ability to take action on. Personal fulfillment is directly tied to you easily being the doer of the action.

You might find you do better with one type of planning over another. Some times this takes a little experimentation to really discover if one system works better than another.  It can be useful to leverage your preferred learning style, and how you like to track things. In the end, it can all come down to personal reference for your desired working style.

Do you like mind maps? Charts? Spreadsheets? Or Journaling?

Your preferences are going to help you decide which planning method fits with your own levels of enjoyment.


Tip: “Find a coach who is comfortable working with all 3 alternatives to New Years resolutions”


Here is something to remember; it is the journey towards your goals that can bring the greatest personal fulfillment. That is, the journey will bring more personal fulfillment than even reaching the goal.

If you are happily engaged with taking action towards what you want – and can feel that enjoyment along the way – your likelihood of sticking with a particular journey to your goal is greater and your sense of accomplishment will soar.

So, setting up things so they are enjoyable, and perhaps even a little fun – can go a long way to keeping your inspired and approaching things from a light and enjoyable way.
If you are in the small percentage of folks that have been uproariously happy with how your last year, and can honestly say you would not have wanted anything to be better than it was – You can always just ride the tide of change –and see where it takes you.

If however, you are in the majority of folks, who are aware of the pain of not making change, or that realize making things better is something they do want. I encourage you to begin a process now, where you put yourself in the direction of making change. Life is too short to have regrets and it can actually cost you – to delay.

Remember too that creating change brings along with it new challenges. Just know with the proper support – no challenge is insurmountable when you understand how to respond to it.
Your planning efforts are going to put you in a better place to being able to respond to the year before it gets to you.

What kind of planning do you personally plan to use this next year?