How to Focus your Energy for Personal Growth

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How to Focus for Personal Growth

Here is something to think about:

Before we talk about the ways you can focus your energy, it’s important to take a moment and think about your current orientation to this upcoming year.  

  • Are your thoughts filled with anticipation about what you can create for the next year?
  • Are you focused on what you want more of?  
  • Or are you finding your orientation leaning more towards what you do not want to repeat this year?  
  • Or worse, are you bringing no thought to what you want to manifest?
  • Or worse even still have you been totally distracted?  

There’s a universal truth that exists in coaching, “what you focus your attention and energy on you will create more of it in your life.

So the focus here is to share with you how to bring your thoughts in alignment with what you do want rather than what you do not want.

5 Things You Can Do To Better Focus Your Energy:

1.Be courageous.  Courage is needed anytime we go out beyond our existing beliefs and comfort zones because courage is the first step in almost any new action or change of limited belief.  It takes even small acts of courage to pursue your desires in the face of someone having a different idea of what you should want.  When that happens, it takes courage to take a stand for living from your inner guidance.  The more you align with courage, the more energy you can spend in your actual pursuit rather than being concerned about maintaining the status quo.

Courage and Authenticity go hand in hand

2.Embrace your authentic desires.  The more you can embrace your innermost desires the better able you will be able to fulfill your sacred promise to yourself. As you harness your courage not only will you experience a personal fulfillment and joy but also your commitment to manifest will increase.

When you commit to manifest your desires, you become inspired, and you will be pulled forward by what is known as a gratitude-based energy. A heightened sense of energy will be released the more you can focus on your desires.

If you doubt this to be true, then I invite you to feel the difference between doing something you enjoy doing and something you loathe. Can you feel the palpable difference between the two desires?

Don’t let your Ego get your way

3.Anticipate without attachment. One of the best ways to focus your manifesting energy is to affirm your desire through anticipating it. Studies around brain neuroplasticity have taught us that positive thinking changes our brains. As you embody the energy of anticipation, you access some higher states of awareness such as love, joy, and curiosity.

These higher energetic states of awareness have an attraction energy.

However, if you mix anticipation with thoughts of expectation it has an adverse effect by lowering the energy level into a place of separateness. This separateness cuts off your access to expanded possibilities.

But when you are mindful about your openness you are more likely to be in a place where you can respond to messages, cues, and opportunities that may present themselves.

Be Open

4.Allow vs. expect.   When we focus our energy on allowing vs. expecting, we open our awareness to “what else?.”  Often our initial desire provides just a glimpse of the picture; it is the movement towards our desire, that begins to fill in the full picture.  When you can stay in an open and allowing state you are able again to pick up on the subtle information that is around you.

 Access to subtle cues happens because you are living in a state of presence.

However, anytime you fall into expecting something to be a certain way, you have left the present moment, and are relying on outdated and more than likely unrealistic information.  That out-dated perspective will leave you out in the cold and often leave you disappointed because reality can pretty much never equal your imagination.  

So much better to stay open and allowing.

Put yourself in action

5.Forward Your momentum by taking action.  Manifesting your desires will require some physical action on your part. Dreaming is one part of the goal-setting process, but it is only effective when those dreams are brought back down to earth that makes them come true. That means taking the plans you created in step three and taking action on them now. It’s only through action that things become real and clear. If you want to know what is true, then take action and move closer towards it. The act of doing so will reveal to you the things that are working and the challenges that will require you to dig deeper to move successfully through the process.

There is no better way to focus your energy to manifest than to take progressive movement toward your desires. You must remember to be courageous, affirm and allowing as you move forward.

Take the risk to benefit your personal growth

Creating change in your life takes courage, authenticity, planning and forward momentum in the face of challenges. While it may appear simple to do so, it’s not always easy. Always remember that without risk and challenges you can’t grow and change for the better.

 

Why is it so hard to tell the truth sometimes?

Hard to tell the truth

Hard to tell the truth

Who isn’t telling the Truth?

CBC News reported a few days ago that Toshiba’s CEO and eight other executives were resigning as a demonstration of taking responsibility for systemic avoidance of telling the truth at Toshiba.

The article goes on to say, “There was intense pressure to produce results, so employees felt cornered into resorting to inappropriate measures.”

We just cannot achieve superior performance, individually or in teams, unless we are actively being Authentic and Truthful.  The truth is the mother of trust. Caring and consistency are her sisters.

A definition for Truthfulness:
Being truthful in thoughts, words, and actions while Acknowledging Universal Truths and expressing from full awareness in mind and body”

A universal truth: Followers yearn for leaders who are real.  Leaders who tell the truth consistently.

Self-leadership is about recognizing these moments of universal truth and being authentic and vulnerable enough to tell the truth even in the face of possible criticism or an onslaught of feelings.

The skills to manage criticisms and overwhelming feelings are ones that can be developed by the personal leader. It’s all possible with an appropriate personal leadership development plan that embraces more authenticity.

A key reason we’re not fully authentic is that we’re not courageous enough. Courage enables us to be Authentic – we cannot be Authentic until we first have the Courage to be so.

When we’re Authentic, we’re aligned: the mind the voice, the heart and the feet all say the same thing. There is no second-guessing ourselves, and no desire to paint things in a certain way.  Truth then becomes a by-product of Authenticity.

We all yearn to find leaders who are authentic.  The truth just like authenticity is palpable.  People can see it from a mile away when you’re incongruent. They may not know what to do with it, but they sense it.

As a personal leader, you might also be watching how the some people are responding to Donald Trump as he pursues the US presidency.   Every day this past week, I’ve heard things such as how refreshing it is for a politician to be “telling it how it is”.

I  point out the difference between speaking an interpretation and speaking a Truth.  It is sad how frequently we all take someone’s opinion and judgments as “Truth” instead of a mixture of interpretations.

The truth is what it is and may not always be kind, but it shouldn’t wound either. The truth just is, does not have any energy behind it on its own. It’s the interpretations that we’d lay down beside the fact that makes truth-telling hard for some. (to say and to listen to)

Famous truthfulness quotes by Winston Churchill that say things like: “The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is“.

So, as you can see lot’s of conversations in the media right now about truth-telling.   How about you?

how to tell the truth

You might say it’s not hard to tell the truth.  Here is a little challenge, take this simple self- discovery quiz, answering with a simple true or false answer.

  • I always tell the truth
  • I have never taken anything that was not mine
  • I am never intimidated
  • I am always the best at whatever I do
  • I like everyone I know
  • I never fool myself

Did you notice any gray areas?  Any places where you wanted to say almost always?  Any places where you have a complete fail?       I know personally being extremely optimistic, I don’t always tell myself the truth.

Truth telling is not always easy, and we all can be vulnerable to stretching the truth. A great 1 step is to take full responsibility and be authentic in what you say (and don’t say). You can also build some of the following into your own personal leadership development plan.

Ways to Make Truth-telling easier

Here are some ways to make it easier to tell the truth:

  • Create an environment where it’s safe to tell the truth. Make a pact with others around you that there is an agreement to speak the truth.
  • Agree that there will be no recriminations or punishment for truth telling.
  • Make a commitment to speak the truth in a helpful and positive way. Avoid wounding with the truth.
  • As you tell the truth make clear distinctions between what you observe and what you think about what you see. Recognize the possible impact of your interpretation before you speak.

Here is a good truth question for yourself as an easy first step:

  • As a self-management practice, practice daily telling the truth when someone asks, “How are you?”.   Instead of just answering, “fine” as a default – stop, go inside and see what is  the state of affairs.  (then share THAT).  Then expand to other contexts.