Having doubt is part of the human condition. The ability to move through this wave of uncertainty, towards flow is a skill of personal leadership development.
The conditioning of doubt has a lot to do with resisting. When you are doubtful – no doubt, you are resisting some-thing. It could be resisting the truth of a matter, resisting trusting your own or resisting your pure essential nature (your true self). The truth is – doubt and uncertainty come in – when you have a barrier to knowing. In personal leadership, the opportunity for practice is to create a process for yourself to increase your awareness (knowing).
Doubt can be one of those problem states because very often in doubt -you might get caught in a practice of ineffective action. Barriers of doubt is like being caught in an ocean tide; you may try to swim against it – but when the elements come in; it just might be stronger than your will.
Here a few ways you can circumvent personal waves of doubt and uncertainty:
1.Embrace it. Uncertainty and doubtfulness be wonderful teachers; for within the apprehension is emotional energy that can point the way to new awareness. Often behind this apprehension is an unmet need. There perhaps is a need for more information or even an unmet need to trust. By becoming more aware of your feelings and then looking for your not yet met needs you will learn lots. It takes embracing the process of learning from your emotions which is a primary skill of being a personal leader.
2. Trust in “Perfect Timing”. Very often when you doubt – you are uncomfortable in some way with the pace of something. Either it is too fast or too slow – or as a result you might feel a need to grasp on a little tighter to the controls (and doubt). The skill to learn when you trust in perfect timing is to recognize there may be not enough clarity at this moment – yet – clarity will come in its perfect timing.
3. Get really good at trusting and acting on your intuition. Your body often will know something before your mind will register it. When you get more efficient in recognizing the body signals that point to sure yes, a sure no, or need for an expression – the conditioning of doubt – is dramatically less present.
4. Keep yourself in action. You learn more in action. As you act through an experience, you will get lots of information about what might be needed to move you forward. Even resistance and struggle can be teachers. Keeping doubtfulness up in your mind – often keeps things like a hamster wheel; just spinning – and yet not getting anywhere. When you move, your awareness into action and your body – you have lots, lots more access to information and possibilities.
5. Be true to you. Standing up and being true to your authenticity can be a direct line to greater awareness and knowing. It is the slide into living another person’s expectations that can get you caught in dilemmas – for you never really fully interpret the expectations of others. You can, however, know what is meaningful and true for you.
6. Have your full self-expression. Even the most subtle attempt to avoid confrontation can create the conditioning of doubt. When you resist feeling what it would be like if someone didn’t agree with your point of view – or the possible criticism that may occur- you can see how easy it could be to be doubtful, be uncertain and to hesitate. Expressing yourself with congruence will keep things aligned with your truth and authenticity. It takes a little courage. (You can be more courageous – your authentic self-expression will aid you)
7. Criticize less. When we criticize – we create a division of separateness. When we see things with nonjudgmental awareness – we have more access to truth, possibilities and knowing.
It’s possible with practice to live in the wonder of uncertainty. What it takes is the ability to release, allow – and be in the flow. When we live in the wonder of each moment, we then can take action from our full body knowing, as appropriate.