How to Cope with Loss

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Coping with LossIf you are dealing with any type of separation or loss over this holiday season, then you understand more than most that the holidays can be emotionally painful just as much as they can be joyful .

You also can see  that some additional courage is needed so that you can cope with your loss.

Loss can be especially challenging if you cannot associate with positive feelings or thoughts associated with those that you have lost, and  you are caught in a cycle of continually ‘missing’ the other.

If you are like most people, you’re able to remember experiences with those that you lost but yet it’s harder to associate with positive emotions associated with those experiences.

Here is a simple idea that may help you transform your sense of loss:

Shift your focus.   Instead of focusing on what is missing or no longer present, shift your focus to gratitude and love for what you already have.

It can take courage to transform a perspective in times of great loss, yet if you are able to; you may find the relief and ease you crave.

When you’re able to shift your focus to one of gratitude and appreciation, it’s much easier to reconnect with the essence of those that you know are now missing.

With any loss, there are some elements of the relationship that can be maintained out into the future. In the experience of loss, we sometimes forget that there are positive feelings, memories and learned experiences from the relationship that can be carried forward.

Once you embrace the concept that there are elements of the essence of the other, and that it’s not possible to lose those elements, this can help transform your experience.   The feeling of love that is possible from this awareness – can help transform your experience and greatly help you cope with your loss.

It can then also be very helpful to imagine the object of your sense of loss as having a gift to pass on to you.   Identify what that gift or gifts may be.

Then, if it seems appropriate share that gift with another.  In this way – the sacredness of the gift can be a legacy extended out into the future in a meaningful way and later, as appropriate, you can resolve the emotions that lay out before you.

 

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