Life is about balance
For every YES in your life, there something to abandon. That is, something you could say NO to.
Abandonment is an important concept to remember when you are bringing in new goals, for it can be so easy to start to believe that you have an endless cauldron of energy, and then before you know it, you are over-committed. To give as much energy as you desire to your YES’s – it can be useful to identify what you might abandon so that you might preserve your precious energy and create some much needed personal leadership ease.
With any plan, as much as it is important to identify with what you will do, it is as important to identify with what you will stop doing.
It can be as simple as a bullet point list:
• crying over spilled milk
• having chips on your shoulder
• adding fuel to the fire
• barking up the wrong tree
• beating around the bush
• crying Wolf
• counting chickens before they hatch
• getting up on the wrong side of the bed
• knee-jerk reacting
• biting the hand that feeds
• starting off on the wrong foot
• judging a book by its cover
These will be things like:
- behaviors that do not honor your highest good
- hanging out with naysayers
- non-completion of projects
- spinning wheels
- doubting yourself
- delaying decisions
- If what you want is to lose weight, eating hamburgers may be a contrary intention to losing weight so that eating hamburgers will be added to your list.
- If you want to be more active, you might want to have TV watching on your abandonment list.
- If you’re looking to have more integrity, you may decide that you will no longer allow yourself to be late for any of your appointments.
- If you are looking to be more authentic, telling, little white lies may be added to your abandonment list.
You get the idea. For everything that you do want – there should be one or more things you will stop doing to support your desire for what you do want. This list will be the core of your abandonment plan.
Create your abandonment plan
Create a list of all your outstanding promises. Are there items on this list that are no longer relevant or that you no longer need to do? If so, put those on your abandonment list and as a condition of abandoning make sure you renegotiate those promises. Avoid leaving them hanging, for promises broken can add to your energy drain.
Instead, make sure everything that is on your to-do list is because it serves your soul, your heart, and your desire.
If you have done this exercise while you read, by now you’ve identified a few things that you could if you chose to, abandon. If you haven’t done this exercise yet, I hope you will take the time soon. Just take a moment or two to think about how this might simplify things for you and create a little more ease.
A simplified life means you are doing and having the things that are meaningful and you have released the non-meaningful ones. Your focus becomes is more laser-like. You are clearer and there are fewer barriers to you getting what you do want.
The easiest way to remember the opportunity is to visualize the ebb and flow of your energy.
For every yes – there is something to say no to.
Now, what do you need to say no to ensure your success?