Using Peace as Guide to Your Own Self Leadership

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Let’s define PEACE as a state of calm personal presence where you are not caught up in any story of the past or worry of the future;  where you can easily maintain your personal emotional poise.

Peace can be a guiding energy in your personal leadership if you allow it.  Peace has an understanding that you are at personal ease with your choices and that you are flexible, open and responsive.   

Bottom line: It’s much easier to lead yourself with grace and ease when are in a peaceful state.

 

“Be at peace to be great at your personal leadership and be a great personal leader to also have inward peace.

Take a moment now and think about the last time you didn’t feel peaceful.  Can you see how, more than likely, you were frustrated, anxious or fearful in some small way?  

When you get caught up in non-peaceful energies, sometimes it can often be because of one of these 4 scenarios:

  1.    You are off balance
  2.     You are overly referencing the past – and applying interpretations, and living into those
  3.     You are caught in a limited perspective – and are excluding other possible perspectives
  4.     You are locked into an expectation and are reacting to that expectation

The above 4 things can be sources of struggle or frustration. 

Personal Leadership PeaceHere is how to gently turn your struggles into a greater sense of peace:

Pursue emotional mastery.  When you can be in a place of poise with your emotions, you leave yourself free to succeed.  When you have grace with your emotional range, you can freely express yourself without the fear of being overwhelmed by your feelings. 

If you shake when you are angry, if you cry to the point of interrupting your words, if you stay in a bad mood for more than a few moments, if you get stuck and stay there, or if you have things in your life you don’t want – these can be signs that your level of emotional mastery could use an upgrade.

Be diligent about looking for and being open to alternate perspectives.    Even things like being overly identified with your roles, life experience, moments of pride or failure can take you out of having an expansive perspective.  It can be so easy to limit who you are, just by saying, “I am (blank)”— for what happens in that experience is that you leave out all the other great things you are.  

Here are a few quick tips for understanding if you have embraced enough perspectives to put yourself in a place of flexibility and openness in your personal leadership:

  •         If you have 1 choice of perspective, without a doubt, you are in a limited perspective for you have blocked out any other possibility.  This is the “my-way-or-the-highway” stance.
  •         If you have 2 choices, you are caught in a dilemma.  An either/or choice is a set up for conflict and dis-ease.  It asks you to be constantly judging and comparing, which can take you away from peace and towards conflict.
  •         If you have at least 3 choices, you are in a place to be more at ease, not only because there are more options – it is also a gateway to the ultimate in flexibility where you can easily create perspectives and use your personal presence to sense the best choice for yourself.

Be judgment sensitive.

Judging, comparing, or criticizing something is a great inclusion as an element in a creative process – it is not a great thing, however, when it becomes a constant way of being.

Here is the biggest problem with the act of judging. It takes you out of connection because, in order to for you to judge something, you need to consciously disassociate yourself from it. (So you can see it clearly).

The problems come in, however, when you see yourself as ‘there – out there’, and you forget that you are also part of what you are judging.  In short, you are blocking the perspective of ‘wholeness’. 

You don’t have to look very far to see this in action.  Just listen for someone judging another.   Then, notice if part of the energy of what they are judging is someone alive within themselves. Often it is.

Have intentions instead of expectations.

Expectation is the mother of all disappointments. Expectations often bring suffering because we are not rewarded as we expect.

It is an illusory world where we bring into the present moment that which we have anchored and become identified with.  We expect things being a certain way including our place in that scenario. It’s illusory because it is made up. It is imagined.

In a dramatic sense, expectations are your attempt of trying to control the universe.   At first glance at that statement, you may say nay, but if you think about it long enough – you can sense the energy within you when you would like something to turn out a certain way.
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Mind and Body – How to Improve Your Presence of Mind

Presence of Mind

Let’s  define a presence of mind as having self-control in stressful situations along with the ability to think and act calmly even if chaos or conflict surrounds you.

The surprising thing is, what you think you want is more control.  Counterintuitively, what you need more of,  is the ability to be open and flexible in your  personal presence.  Presence is your way through the emotional reaction, not having greater control.

When you recognize that you are searching for the presence of mind, on some level you are also aware your mind and body have been caught up in a reaction to something.  You might notice you are a little anxious or feel the tension or even sense you could cry.

These feeling are emotional energy, and you have just been caught up in the grip of an emotion.   Emotions can derail anyone.

Just ask anyone how has felt anger, frustration, regret, guilt, resentment or fear if they felt their emotions had a hold of them for a bit.

The good news is the solution isn’t only available in your ability to ‘think’ your way through.

You might be surprised to know that improved presence of mind is possible when you begin to pay attention to the energy that you create when you’re inside of a reaction.

While this seem a little woo-woo at first, there is a practical application for using your energy to move through a problem.

It is truly possible to extract yourself from the pattern of overreacting and maintain a sense of equanimity and calmness even in the face of significant stress.

Presence of MindHere are a few tips on how to improve your presence of mind:

 1. Recognize what is present. When you’re able to acknowledge that you have been caught up in an energy field of reaction – you are on your way to improved peace of mind.   It may even seem like you have been caught up inside of an energy field, where the energy feels like it a part of you.  Just by noticing it – you’ve taken the first step to being able to extract yourself from the overreaction.

Most people describe this field of energy as if it’s a cloud surrounding their body.  The reaction creates this energy field and most often it will represent itself surrounding or engulfing your mind and body.

You can poke the energy to reveal itself by asking “Will the part of me that is creating this reaction, show itself now”.  Often just the question is enough to open up enough awareness so that you can sense it with your subtle senses of seeing and feeling.

This energy as it breathes around us creates an identification that has us feel as if the energy is a part of our reality and a part of us.  We get caught up in and live in the expectation of this perception.

It has the quality of a singular perspective, and your goal here will be to extract yourself from the energy so that you can have a bigger, more world-view perspective.

 

2. Extract yourself from the energy. The key to extracting yourself from this energy’s power over you is to notice that the energy has a place where it’s present and then a place where it ends.  Out beyond the edge of energy, there is a sliver of calm and peace.  The key is to recognize and then favor noticing this quietness that exists out beyond the reactive energy.

Once you’re able to make the distinction between the energy and the fast quietness that exists out beyond the energy – you can choose to go out and stand in the perspective that is vast and peaceful.  Once you have done that – you have extracted yourself from the reaction.

Take the time to notice that out here in awareness, you are so much more than that reaction. Notice just how fast and limitless is this awareness.

After you’ve taken the time to appreciate, the vast quietness of awareness, gaze back at what was the energy.  Most often you will notice the energy that previously engulfed you as getting smaller and smaller.

The perspective happens because your awareness shifts to recognizing the reality that you are so much more than that old limited expectation and perspective.

3. See the energy as a story.   I will suggest that you see this old energy as an emotional reaction to the story. It’s an old response.

Once you do this, you will recognize there is no real benefit to running the limited story.  Then you will begin to notice how this old reaction may not be an effective use of your own life’s energy to support it.

It’s okay to let the reaction go.

Notice the energy cannot exist if the story does not exist. Often when you’re able to get this awareness the story and the energy will collapse back into awareness.

After you’ve extracted yourself from the energy, you’ll notice that you have greater perspective, more awareness and a greater sense of calm and presence of mind.

This type of awareness work – works especially well when you have an expert guide to support you.    Contact us, and we can show you how this works in a complimentary Personal Leadership Break-thru Session.