Feeling Overwhelmed? – 3 Ways to Solve That Problem Right Now

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Have you lost your sense of calm and equanimity recently?

Have you lost your balance and feel overwhelmed?

One problem with feeling overwhelmed is that we often don’t even acknowledge we are in it, when it begins, and before long, we are up to our eyes in it.

 Feeling overwhelmed is the problem of being caught in the illusion that there is too much to do and not enough time to do it.

Your first reaction might be to say it’s no illusion, ” I do have too much to do,” but THAT could just be part of the cause of your problem.

 The too much perspective

Let’s address the “TOO MUCH”  perspective first.   When we have TOO MUCH of ANYTHING, it’s because we have not edited things down to what is truly meaningful and realistic.

When you expect yourself to accomplish more than is humanly possible, and you are only human, something is out of alignment.   Either you are not taking effective action to get things done or you haven’t made things practical enough. Why not simplify things?

Fast action activity:  Here is how to get organized when feeling overwhelmed. Write a list.  Thinking about letting go of anything that is not meaningful, important or urgent.  If you have things on your to-do list that are not urgent, important or meaningful, you might want to reassess why you were going to try to do them.  One energy-giving activity is to consider STOP doing the things that are not important, meaningful or urgent.  Here is a downloadable form to use.

Your second reaction  might be to say, “ I SHOULD be able to do this.”  That judgement might be giving legs to your problem of being overwhelmed!

 The low compassion for self perspective

It’s an all-to0-frequent sand trap we can fall into when we think we can do it all.

We think we can push ourselves further and further, over-committing ourselves, and then, when we fail and fall into exhaustion, we spend way too much time caught up in negative self-talk about the whole thing.

If you are stuck, it’s time for some clearing techniques.

If you’re tired, perhaps it’s time for some self-compassion.

Bottom line – if you find yourself in a low vibration around being kind to yourself  or being frustrated by others, take a much needed time out and begin or continue a significant self-care focus.

Fast action activity: Go and take a napWhen you come back, think about ways you can maintain some equanimity.  You might decide to stop saying yes automatically. You might decide to say no more often.  You might decide to choose to do only those things that are meaningful to you.

A common third reaction is a huge source for the problem of the overwhelmed…

 The I am all on my own and isolated perspective

Believing you are isolated and alone.  You have forgotten your connection with ONENESS.

Fast action activity: Remember we are ALL one.  Shift to a perspective that we, every human, are all connected.

Here are some other ways to cut down that feeling of being overwhelmed in isolation:

  •  See out connection with others.
  • Separate the core truth from an interpretation.  Often, the interpretation is the source of the isolation! In a full-on perspective of truth, there is comfort (of some sort).
  • Unhook yourself from the future.
  • Wait for clarity before making decisions.  It may be you need to bring in other perspectives or wait for the emotional wave to pass.
  • Go for a state of calm in all situations. Calm is a highly resourceful state – one that you can leverage to travel in any direction you choose.
  • Do a little prioritizing and create hierarchies.  It’s amazing how a re-alignment to what is most meaningful will do.

I like to think of “overwhelmed” as an unnecessary state of affairs.  When you choose to lead yourself in a more self-designed effective way, the overwhelmed feelings become an experience of the past.

Will you ever experience feelings of being overwhelmed again? In these times we are living in? Probably.

Yet, when you have an effective tool-kit for handling being overwhelmed, the second you feel it coming on, you’ll have designed an effective response.

The moment you feel overwhelmed is the opportunity to be proactive in how you self-manage, be response-able enough to recognize it immediately, and take responsive action.

Ask yourself “What would bring me back to balance?”  “What can I do, right now that would get me above this?”

 

“What kinds of things help you get back to equanimity and balance?”  Share your thoughts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Doubt Drabs – What To Do When You Doubt Your Own Leadership

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How to solve a dilemma of doubt

 

Got the Doubt Drabs? Have you ever found yourself caught in the dilemma of a doubt?    Like indecision and procrastination, doubt is putting up a challenge to a state of change on a body level.

Why you doubt something in your life:

If you doubt something – chances are – on some level you’ve stopped trusting and acting on your intuition.

This uncertainty is a demonstration of both losing your connection with personal presence and holding on to a fear of the possibility of overwhelming feelings.

The common illusion is that you can solve your uncertainty easiest with your mind – where actually, it is your body that will bring you home to clarity with the greater speed.

 Getting caught in the cycle of doubt can be expensive

If your project gets paralyzed because you are stuck in a cycle of the doubt – this can be expensive.  Indecision is expensive.  Doubt is draining.

 How to get through and beyond your doubt

Learn some key distinctions

  • Learn to make a clear distinction between your intuition and a feeling level response to avoid
  • Make clear distinctions between knowing and thinking

It’s easy to fall back into an over-thinking pattern when you are caught between choices.  So often this stickiness is experienced like Ping-Pong back and forth between the choices at hand.    Knowing happens when the wave of uncertainty clear – and that happens only in presence.

Learn to wait for clarity

Sometimes there is an emotional wave to wait through before uncertainty lifts.   Learning to live in the wonder of uncertainty, and still have momentum, helps you to avoid the pitfalls of getting caught in a cycle of not knowing. This is especially needed when you are caught in a cycle of toxic thinking.  When you have inward conflict such as a conditioning of doubt – forcing an outcome doesn’t move you out of problems.  Being open and flexible allows you be receptive to the knowing that may show up.

Learn to stay present – even in the face of the “Unfaceable.”

If you started doubting as a stop gap to having to face someone confronting you or shaming you – the opportunity is to learn how to be with the feelings by expanding your capacity to feel.

Learn to remember the future as clearly as you do the past

When you can begin to leverage visions of the future with flexibility and expanded awareness.  The concern around the ‘choice’ becomes less because you know you have the flexibility to learn and adjust.   You learn that being in momentum creates magic, and the state of sitting in doubt is more expensive.

Looking for some specific ideas to overcome your doubt – here are 7 ways to overcome doubt or uncertainty and 7 ways to move forward with greater certainty.