4 Clearing Techniques to Get Past Stuck

clearing techniques
One key activity in undertaking a path of personal leadership is the courageous one of consistently breaking through perceived barriers.

Success comes easier when you take on a belief, a mindset and practice that stands in the perspective that stuckness is unnecessary and temporary as long as you handle not sitting still for it.

Barriers to our success can manifest in many forms depending on your perspective:  

  • Fear
  • self-talk or toxic thinking
  • Confusion
  • Isolation
  • Overwhelm
  • Resistance
  • Restriction
  • Financial
  • Lack of (name it) money, energy, resources, time
  • Barriers to Success

Barriers, if you let them, can stop you in your tracks.  It often takes small daily acts of courage to move through places where you feel stuck.   It takes a willingness to open yourself up to options and possibilities that will allow you to leapfrog these barbed barriers.  Now, while most of the clearing techniques are dramatically easier when working with an expert coach.

Here are 4 simple clearing techniques that are meant to aid in breaking down barriers:

Mind Clearing:  Got a barrier rooted in how you are thinking? It might be time to do some mind-clearing.  These would be things like having too many choices with equal weight.  Or you are feeling confused? Or unable to hold all the things that need to be done without feeling a sense of overwhelm?

Here is a simple idea…Blank Paper ExerciseThe blank paper clearing technique:  Take a blank piece of 8.5″ x 11″ paper, and with different coloured pens (use the colour where you choose) follow these directions:

  1.  Draw a small circle in the  middle of the page.  In the small circle – write what is you are confused or overwhelmed about – and do it in 2 words or less.  (This is your anchor thought)
  2.  Next draw a small circle – and in that circle write down 1 singular thought, question, or to do.   ( It’s important to only put 1 thought inside.  For example – go to the store and buy buns.. (that’s two thoughts)  Go to the store – is one , and buy buns is another.)

Continue to draw a circles one at a time, and then write the thought in each circle, one at a time – until you run out of thoughts.  (Try not let the circle edges touch)  You assist yourself a little for speed by setting a timer for 7 or 8 Minutes.

  1. At the end of your timer, or sooner if you feel complete – put down your pen and look at what you have done for 1 minute.
  2. Then turn over the piece of paper – so you are looking at the white page – with nothing on it. Look at the blank piece of paper for approx. 1 minute
  3. Take the piece of paper while still looking at the blank side – crunch it up into a ball – and physically throw it in the recycling bin.  It may seem a little shocking to through it away – You will be surprised though at the new awareness that after 10 minute exercise, you don’t really need it anymore.

Now think of your issue that you wrote in the center of the page of the exercise.  How do you feel about it now?   Where’s the confusion or overwhelm now?            Most people feel a greater sense of certainty after doing this exercise.Take this time of clarity to do a little planning of your next steps and determining what resources you will need to move forward.

Chemistry clearing
When you have a chemistry barrier – You might notice you have a language or communication barrier in a relationship.  Your relationship needs some TLC.  Clearing relationship barriers – just means to bring some internal and external focus:

  1. Internally – what do you need to forgive, release or allow?
  2. Externally  – what truth do you need to tell or expression do you have to make?

There are many communication techniques for clearing in relationships. Most good ones ask you to make distinctions between what you see (the truth) and what you make up  (the interpretation).  Truth often has many perspectives.  Interpretation isn’t based on reality.     You will notice that trying to control the outcome to clear a relationship barrier – may just keep you stuck.  Instead, you could try an “allowing” perspective with the intention of creating a connection – you may find that helps you to create some movement.

Body and energy clearing
When you have a body barrier to success  – it might be because your container for your capacity to feel an emotion is smaller than the energy of the feeling.  The result – is a feeling of fear, overwhelm or resistance.

To clear the energy – without forcing…feel into the energy of the feeling and continue to do this – until the feeling dissipates completely.

Spirit Clearing
When you have a barrier on the level of spirit – if not related to trust, it can sometimes be related to what meaning you have attached to your outcome.  Is it inspiring enough to pull you towards it?  Is It aligned with your values? And is the meaning you attribute to it worthwhile?

A simple exercise to clear energy on this level is to go for a walk in nature and think about the big WHY when you desire to do something and keep asking that question to each subsequent answer.  Eventually, after 5 or 6 layers deep – you will discover the deeper meaningful outcome you want.You might just surprise yourself as to what comes to you.   Hold that meaningful outcome up to some light – and see – if now you feel compelled to move forward.It is what meaning making – and those parts of ourself that we bring to the world – that raises your WHY up to a spiritual level.Allow your meaning-making to permeate everything you do.

 

Personal Leadership Congruence – 15 Shifts to be More Authentic

 

leadership congruenceTo be more fully congruent is a desired personal leadership trait.   In leadership, your world view, awareness, mindset, flexibility and attitudes are reflected in your ability to be congruent.

Congruence is actually one of the corner stone leadership traits.  In its outer manifestation; it is often linked to ability to be trusted, to be courageous and to be authentic.

It most importantly affects your ability to be an influential communicator.

Internally, congruence is a demonstration of your self-esteem, your own ability to trust, and your own sense of wholeness.

Congruence occurs when you words AND your body language and physiology are in direct alignment with each other.

It takes your words, your breath, your facial expression and even tiny indicators like things like the skin colour or tightness around your mouth and eyes to be congruent with each other.  It includes things too like your qualities such as your vocal tone and your vocal volume.

Here are 15 Shifts to make to become a more congruent in your self leadership:

become more authentic

  • from control to intimacy, flexibility and openness
  •  from desiring trust to being trusting
  •  from being protective to being vulnerable
  •  from being stuck in a singular perspective to being willing to take risks
  •  from apathy to appreciation of yourself, those around you, and your environments
  •  from being critical and judging to seeing the uniqueness as well combine wholeness of everyone around you
  •  from being fearful of others to loving others
  •  from being unsatisfied with yourself to loving and embracing your own essence
  • from resisting change to being open to change
  • from seeking validation to feeling resourceful, creative and whole
  • from holding back to having your full expression (all of it)
  • from limiting your energy to being in your full vitality
  • from pushing down feelings to feeling them fully
  • from saying yes automatically, to make considered choices in alignment with your own values
  • from pleasing others to pleasing yourself

When you more freely choose to communicate with congruence – with your head, heart,hands and feet all in alignment, you are making the choice to love and honour and to be connected with others – and all that entails.