Doubt Drabs – What To Do When You Doubt Your Own Leadership

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How to solve a dilemma of doubt

 

Got the Doubt Drabs? Have you ever found yourself caught in the dilemma of a doubt?    Like indecision and procrastination, doubt is putting up a challenge to a state of change on a body level.

Why you doubt something in your life:

If you doubt something – chances are – on some level you’ve stopped trusting and acting on your intuition.

This uncertainty is a demonstration of both losing your connection with personal presence and holding on to a fear of the possibility of overwhelming feelings.

The common illusion is that you can solve your uncertainty easiest with your mind – where actually, it is your body that will bring you home to clarity with the greater speed.

 Getting caught in the cycle of doubt can be expensive

If your project gets paralyzed because you are stuck in a cycle of the doubt – this can be expensive.  Indecision is expensive.  Doubt is draining.

 How to get through and beyond your doubt

Learn some key distinctions

  • Learn to make a clear distinction between your intuition and a feeling level response to avoid
  • Make clear distinctions between knowing and thinking

It’s easy to fall back into an over-thinking pattern when you are caught between choices.  So often this stickiness is experienced like Ping-Pong back and forth between the choices at hand.    Knowing happens when the wave of uncertainty clear – and that happens only in presence.

Learn to wait for clarity

Sometimes there is an emotional wave to wait through before uncertainty lifts.   Learning to live in the wonder of uncertainty, and still have momentum, helps you to avoid the pitfalls of getting caught in a cycle of not knowing. This is especially needed when you are caught in a cycle of toxic thinking.  When you have inward conflict such as a conditioning of doubt – forcing an outcome doesn’t move you out of problems.  Being open and flexible allows you be receptive to the knowing that may show up.

Learn to stay present – even in the face of the “Unfaceable.”

If you started doubting as a stop gap to having to face someone confronting you or shaming you – the opportunity is to learn how to be with the feelings by expanding your capacity to feel.

Learn to remember the future as clearly as you do the past

When you can begin to leverage visions of the future with flexibility and expanded awareness.  The concern around the ‘choice’ becomes less because you know you have the flexibility to learn and adjust.   You learn that being in momentum creates magic, and the state of sitting in doubt is more expensive.

Looking for some specific ideas to overcome your doubt – here are 7 ways to overcome doubt or uncertainty and 7 ways to move forward with greater certainty.

 

 

 

How to Live from Wholeness – All the time

One of the biggest sources of any roadblock you may face, is born out of not remembering to live from a state of wholeness.

I know at first glance, that might seem an odd statement, yet when you get caught in the illusion that you are neither whole nor complete but instead separate – it’s possible to lose your most resourceful perspective.

What happens when you don’t live from Awareness and Wholeness?   Problems tend to happen and you get stuck in isolation, confusion, or chaos.

It is possible to live from the state of awareness – all the time.  It just takes practice with the intention to live from awareness – all the time.

The act of remembering we are as ONE is a daily practice of effective personal leadership.

The first step to living from awareness is to identify all your current barriers to living from wholeness. Here are few places to look:

The Area of Perspective

Are you a thinky person? If you get overly identified with being the knower, it’s easy to lose track of the flexibility that comes from being a nimble perspective shifter.

If you have ever caught yourself thinking “I am right, and it should be ‘this way” ”  – you just might be in a singular perspective where you are wishing you could control the outcome.   Unfortunately, what happens as soon as you shift into THAT perspective you lose your connection with awareness and the ability to ‘know’.  There can be a big, big difference between knowing and thinking.  When you know – you know how you know – and there is certainty that comes from knowing.

Openness and ability to wait for clarity (knowing) is a key skill to living from wholeness

  The Area of Feelings

 Are you avoiding any unpleasant experience?  If you have ever found yourself not trusting and acting on your intuition, or spending a lot of time ‘outside of the present moment’ telling stories, or feeling anxious about the future, or getting caught up in the grip of an emotion like frustration or guilt – you’re starting to identify some of the barriers to living from wholeness in this area of feelings and emotions.

The energy of these feelings can actually be a gatekeeper to your connection with awareness.  All to often when you feel you might be overwhelmed by an emotional experience, you’ll head a way from the experience at hand in order to protect yourself from the feeling of being overwhelmed.  The personal leadership skill in this area is to make a comittment to yourself to avoid nothing and to feel everything.

Feeling everything there needs to be felt is a key skill to living from wholeness

The Area of Love

Are you Embodying Your Love?   Are you oozing love?  If you have ever found yourself gazing at a small toothless child – and felt the wave of love come over you – you know what I am talking about.  The energy of love is palpable.    If you are separated from this perspective of LOVE, it’s easy to get caught up in a wash of overwhelming emotion.  Often those feelings are ones of fear and concern.   If you find yourself looking for validation or for love outside of yourself to feel your own sense of wholeness, that might be a signal that you are caught in an illusion of separateness.

The personal leadership skill in the area of love is to make a commitment to yourself that you will self-validate.  Love without needing love in return and engage your energies in mutually beneficial relationships.  The advanced skill is to maintain a state of oozing-love.    Here are some tips on how  to raise your LOVE vibration.

Self-love and self-validation are key to living from wholeness.

Living your life in a perspective of  wholeness is possible with practice.  It takes paying attention to your mind-body messages and cultivating a desire to main your connection with awareness of awareness.