Mind and Body – How to Improve Your Presence of Mind

Presence of Mind

Let’s  define a presence of mind as having self-control in stressful situations along with the ability to think and act calmly even if chaos or conflict surrounds you.

The surprising thing is, what you think you want is more control.  Counterintuitively, what you need more of,  is the ability to be open and flexible in your  personal presence.  Presence is your way through the emotional reaction, not having greater control.

When you recognize that you are searching for the presence of mind, on some level you are also aware your mind and body have been caught up in a reaction to something.  You might notice you are a little anxious or feel the tension or even sense you could cry.

These feeling are emotional energy, and you have just been caught up in the grip of an emotion.   Emotions can derail anyone.

Just ask anyone how has felt anger, frustration, regret, guilt, resentment or fear if they felt their emotions had a hold of them for a bit.

The good news is the solution isn’t only available in your ability to ‘think’ your way through.

You might be surprised to know that improved presence of mind is possible when you begin to pay attention to the energy that you create when you’re inside of a reaction.

While this seem a little woo-woo at first, there is a practical application for using your energy to move through a problem.

It is truly possible to extract yourself from the pattern of overreacting and maintain a sense of equanimity and calmness even in the face of significant stress.

Presence of MindHere are a few tips on how to improve your presence of mind:

 1. Recognize what is present. When you’re able to acknowledge that you have been caught up in an energy field of reaction – you are on your way to improved peace of mind.   It may even seem like you have been caught up inside of an energy field, where the energy feels like it a part of you.  Just by noticing it – you’ve taken the first step to being able to extract yourself from the overreaction.

Most people describe this field of energy as if it’s a cloud surrounding their body.  The reaction creates this energy field and most often it will represent itself surrounding or engulfing your mind and body.

You can poke the energy to reveal itself by asking “Will the part of me that is creating this reaction, show itself now”.  Often just the question is enough to open up enough awareness so that you can sense it with your subtle senses of seeing and feeling.

This energy as it breathes around us creates an identification that has us feel as if the energy is a part of our reality and a part of us.  We get caught up in and live in the expectation of this perception.

It has the quality of a singular perspective, and your goal here will be to extract yourself from the energy so that you can have a bigger, more world-view perspective.

 

2. Extract yourself from the energy. The key to extracting yourself from this energy’s power over you is to notice that the energy has a place where it’s present and then a place where it ends.  Out beyond the edge of energy, there is a sliver of calm and peace.  The key is to recognize and then favor noticing this quietness that exists out beyond the reactive energy.

Once you’re able to make the distinction between the energy and the fast quietness that exists out beyond the energy – you can choose to go out and stand in the perspective that is vast and peaceful.  Once you have done that – you have extracted yourself from the reaction.

Take the time to notice that out here in awareness, you are so much more than that reaction. Notice just how fast and limitless is this awareness.

After you’ve taken the time to appreciate, the vast quietness of awareness, gaze back at what was the energy.  Most often you will notice the energy that previously engulfed you as getting smaller and smaller.

The perspective happens because your awareness shifts to recognizing the reality that you are so much more than that old limited expectation and perspective.

3. See the energy as a story.   I will suggest that you see this old energy as an emotional reaction to the story. It’s an old response.

Once you do this, you will recognize there is no real benefit to running the limited story.  Then you will begin to notice how this old reaction may not be an effective use of your own life’s energy to support it.

It’s okay to let the reaction go.

Notice the energy cannot exist if the story does not exist. Often when you’re able to get this awareness the story and the energy will collapse back into awareness.

After you’ve extracted yourself from the energy, you’ll notice that you have greater perspective, more awareness and a greater sense of calm and presence of mind.

This type of awareness work – works especially well when you have an expert guide to support you.    Contact us, and we can show you how this works in a complimentary Personal Leadership Break-thru Session.

 

 

Feeling Overwhelmed? – 3 Ways to Solve That Problem Right Now

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Have you lost your sense of calm and equanimity recently?

Have you lost your balance and feel overwhelmed?

One problem with feeling overwhelmed is that we often don’t even acknowledge we are in it, when it begins, and before long, we are up to our eyes in it.

 Feeling overwhelmed is the problem of being caught in the illusion that there is too much to do and not enough time to do it.

Your first reaction might be to say it’s no illusion, ” I do have too much to do,” but THAT could just be part of the cause of your problem.

 The too much perspective

Let’s address the “TOO MUCH”  perspective first.   When we have TOO MUCH of ANYTHING, it’s because we have not edited things down to what is truly meaningful and realistic.

When you expect yourself to accomplish more than is humanly possible, and you are only human, something is out of alignment.   Either you are not taking effective action to get things done or you haven’t made things practical enough. Why not simplify things?

Fast action activity:  Here is how to get organized when feeling overwhelmed. Write a list.  Thinking about letting go of anything that is not meaningful, important or urgent.  If you have things on your to-do list that are not urgent, important or meaningful, you might want to reassess why you were going to try to do them.  One energy-giving activity is to consider STOP doing the things that are not important, meaningful or urgent.  Here is a downloadable form to use.

Your second reaction  might be to say, “ I SHOULD be able to do this.”  That judgement might be giving legs to your problem of being overwhelmed!

 The low compassion for self perspective

It’s an all-to0-frequent sand trap we can fall into when we think we can do it all.

We think we can push ourselves further and further, over-committing ourselves, and then, when we fail and fall into exhaustion, we spend way too much time caught up in negative self-talk about the whole thing.

If you are stuck, it’s time for some clearing techniques.

If you’re tired, perhaps it’s time for some self-compassion.

Bottom line – if you find yourself in a low vibration around being kind to yourself  or being frustrated by others, take a much needed time out and begin or continue a significant self-care focus.

Fast action activity: Go and take a napWhen you come back, think about ways you can maintain some equanimity.  You might decide to stop saying yes automatically. You might decide to say no more often.  You might decide to choose to do only those things that are meaningful to you.

A common third reaction is a huge source for the problem of the overwhelmed…

 The I am all on my own and isolated perspective

Believing you are isolated and alone.  You have forgotten your connection with ONENESS.

Fast action activity: Remember we are ALL one.  Shift to a perspective that we, every human, are all connected.

Here are some other ways to cut down that feeling of being overwhelmed in isolation:

  •  See out connection with others.
  • Separate the core truth from an interpretation.  Often, the interpretation is the source of the isolation! In a full-on perspective of truth, there is comfort (of some sort).
  • Unhook yourself from the future.
  • Wait for clarity before making decisions.  It may be you need to bring in other perspectives or wait for the emotional wave to pass.
  • Go for a state of calm in all situations. Calm is a highly resourceful state – one that you can leverage to travel in any direction you choose.
  • Do a little prioritizing and create hierarchies.  It’s amazing how a re-alignment to what is most meaningful will do.

I like to think of “overwhelmed” as an unnecessary state of affairs.  When you choose to lead yourself in a more self-designed effective way, the overwhelmed feelings become an experience of the past.

Will you ever experience feelings of being overwhelmed again? In these times we are living in? Probably.

Yet, when you have an effective tool-kit for handling being overwhelmed, the second you feel it coming on, you’ll have designed an effective response.

The moment you feel overwhelmed is the opportunity to be proactive in how you self-manage, be response-able enough to recognize it immediately, and take responsive action.

Ask yourself “What would bring me back to balance?”  “What can I do, right now that would get me above this?”

 

“What kinds of things help you get back to equanimity and balance?”  Share your thoughts.